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Husband’s Ultimatum: Second Wife or Life without My Children

Husband’s Ultimatum: Second Wife or Life without My Children

In this counseling answer: “It is necessary to be aware of the negative/difficult side of the choice. Then you will need to decide whether you will be able to cope with those difficulties and to accept them from the position of a strong, responsible individual and not from the position of a helpless, weak victim.” As-Salamu …

step

As a Step Mom, I'm Being Abused

In this counseling answer: “If you are the only one “parenting” and the father is not participating in co-creating a family system with you, then you might have to back out/away and simply let your husband and the girls know that you are stretched as far as you can be stretched, and that they will need to …

Wife

Over Sensitive Wife, How to Deal with Her?

In this counseling answer: “I would kindly suggest dear brother that you and your wife take Islamic marriage classes.  They are offered at a lot of Masjids, perhaps there is one in your area.  While you both have been married before you may feel, well why should we?  However, you have not been married to …

Husband is Abusive, But I Am Afraid to Divorce

Husband is Abusive, But I Am Afraid to Divorce

In this counseling answer: ” if you feel that your marriage is not serving any of the purposes and meanings above and you have tried marital counseling, involving elders, and even abuse is involved, which is a very serious matter, you need to evaluate the situation and decide on how you would like to move forward.” …

He Suddenly Became a Violent Middle-Eastern Man

He Suddenly Became a Violent Middle-Eastern Man

Answer: Wa ’Alaikum Salaam my dear sister in Islam, I feel completely drained after reading your question. I can only imagine how you feel! This is Islam (not what your husband is doing): “And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquility in them; and He …

Abusive Husband Ruined Our Life; I’m Helpless!

Abusive Husband Ruined Our Life; I’m Helpless!

In this counseling answer: “You need healing, and this healing will take a long time. But it will only work effectively if your mind can become wholesome enough to repel negative thoughts instead of absorbing them. These thoughts include self-respect and self-esteem. ” As-Salamu `Alaykum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh my dear sister, You have shared with us a very …

My Granddaughter Hits me, How Should I Handle It?

In this counseling answer: “As her grandparent, she knows that you love her unconditionally and therefore you become the easy target for her aggression, which may well be a projection of the anger and frustration she is feeling towards the situation of her parent’s divorce. Whilst her abuse towards you is unacceptable, understanding her own perspective …

I Want My Abusive Husband Out of My Life!

In this counseling answer: “In cases of domestic violence, the spouses must be separated before attending to the matters of relationship and negotiating an amicable solution. If you or your children are in danger, then please call the authorities in your area and don’t wait for irrevocable damage to occur. On the other hand, your depression …

Divorce

My Husband Abuses Me Emotionally, Should I Divorce Him?

In this counseling answer: “Sister, from all that you have said, it appears your husband is an angry, controlling man who really does not like women. The fact that you initially stated he wanted to marry you so you could help with his business is a big red flag. I don’t know what it is that …

honour killing

‘Honor Killings’ vs. Domestic Violence - Why These Terms Matter

Equating murder with honor is something we see perpetuated by the mainstream media – and it needs to stop. The international media manipulates public perception regarding domestic violence and abuse that occurs within certain cultures. They use misnomers like “honor killing” to insinuate that these cultures consider domestic homicide a matter of honor and respect. …



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