Living with Angry, Abusive Father: I’m Always Scared; Help!
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Living with Angry, Abusive Father: I’m Always Scared; Help!
30 November, 2024
Q
I want to ask for guidance about a problem I have been undergoing since childhood. It’s my angry father.
My father has done lots for me for which I cannot thank him enough. When he’s in a good mood he’s alright. But when he’s angry (which he mostly is) he’s like the most dangerous person ever. He gives me regular threats and gives me the worst swears a man can relating to mom etc. Mostly it’s on pointless things. He never talks normally or guides. He’s pressured and criticized me since childhood and still does now that I am 16. This is the reason I am always scared and my mental health is in bits. He doesn't let me go out or trust me in anything. I don't also have a phone when all people my age do. He looks down upon me and scares me like I’m his worst mistake. Worst of all he does the same thing to my mother and siblings. He abuses my mother a lot about her family and as if everything is her fault and occasionally lashes out at her to the point, she goes crazy and cries a lot. My mother has always been nice to everyone including my dad and she has never made one mistake on purpose but she has to live with being treated like nothing like me. I don't know why I am writing this. I’m just tired and sad and done. I have been enduring this since childhood. And it has only gotten worse with time. Please help me
If your father treats not only you but the whole family harshly and violently, please understand that it is most likely not your fault.
Do not take his behavior personally, as it seems that he has unfixed issues from the past that prevent him from treating his family with respect and kindness.
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