In this counseling answer:
• Since you have known your husband for over 18 years, have you ever seen anything from him that would indicate that he leads a double life? That he lies?
• Continue to be open and honest with your husband and let him know how you feel.
• If you continue to feel uneasy, ask yourself, “What exactly do I want from my husband that will make me feel better about this situation?
As-Salamu ‘Alaykum Sister,
Thank you for your question. I pray that you and your family continue living together in harmony, and for you and your husband to find peace after such an ordeal. I am sorry to hear about the harassment that you have experienced from that random woman from your husband’s home of origin. I am also very sorry to hear that you have lost a child in the womb at 20 weeks. I pray that you and your husband heal from such a difficulty.
I do not blame you for feeling the way you do after a random woman calls you and tells you that she is your husband’s wife. No matter how great a marriage is, something like this would certainly throw you off even if you trust your husband and share a strong bond together as spouses.
Since that woman’s phone call, you have asked your husband about it and he and his family both said that the woman’s claims are untrue and fabricated. They mentioned something about the woman’s family seeking revenge on your husband and his family. Certainly, how you describe her tone, the picture she showed you, and her mannerisms seem very threatening and done with malice. So it seems that his explanation and what the woman said make sense.
Check out this counseling answer:
But what I would hold to be stronger than that is what you already know about your husband. You explained that you have been married to your husband for over 18 years and describe a very strong and happy marriage Alhamdulillah. Since you have known your husband for over 18 years, have you ever seen anything from him that would indicate that he leads a double life? That he lies? That he has been somehow hiding anything from you? Do you feel that he has been open and trustworthy with you all these years? If he has been, indeed, a trustworthy and honest partner, then his character and his word hold much more weight than what that woman stated.
Continue to be open and honest with your husband and let him know how you feel. If you continue to feel uneasy, ask yourself, “What exactly do I want from my husband that will make me feel better about this situation?
I pray that you and your family continue to live with each other truly and tranquility.
Disclaimer: The conceptualization and recommendations stated in this response are very general and purely based on the limited information provided in the question. In no event shall AboutIslam, its counselors or employees be held liable for any damages that may arise from your decision in the use of our services.