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Have Everything, But No Aim In Life

Have Everything, But No Aim In Life

In this counseling answer: • Realize that whatever blessings we receive from Allah (swt) are a test upon us. • Take some time to really focus on what you know about Allah (swt) and His Messenger (saw). Learn more so that as you learn, your heart will open and,in sha’ Allah,you will develop a love …

Feeling Like a Failure at Work

Feeling Like a Failure at Work

In this counseling answer: • It is very normal to have grades drop when you go from high school to university. •Accepting the help of others doesn’t nullify the worth of your effort. •You should not feel obliged to compromise your values. Wa ‘Aleikom Salam, Firstly, it is very normal to have grades drop when …

My Husband is Unfaithful. We Have a Son: Shall I Divorce?

My Husband is Unfaithful. We Have a Son: Shall I Divorce?

In this counseling answer: • Your children need a healthy family, which does not necessarily mean having their parents together. • Have a clear sense of reality. Although divorce is not an encouraging option, it is allowed, especially if there are abuse, infidelity and effort to make things work but they don’t. • Seek couple …

Depression, Anxiety and Guilt

How to Deal with Depression, Anxiety, and Guilt

In this counseling answer: • Your feelings are completely normal. However, please, do not succumb to your feelings and let them define you. • Continue being hopeful, and strengthen your relationship with Allah. • Continue looking for jobs. • Seek out the positive company and spend time with them. • Seek out Islamichalaqas(gatherings). • Find …

I Love Him, but He Doesn’t Want to Marry Me

I Love Him, but He Doesn't Want to Marry Me

In this counseling answer: • I would like you to reflect upon what love means to you. • Try to step back away from your emotions and look at this situation as a stranger would. • Please makedu’aa’to Allah (swt) to keep you on the right path. • If you do not meet him, it …

Don't Worry: Teenage Crush is Normal

Don't Worry: Teenage Crush is Normal

In this counseling answer: • It can be very overwhelming and confusing. Since these feelings you are experiencing are new, you get easily overwhelmed by them. • Doing well in school is the best thing you can do for yourself at this point, because it will help you to get into college and become what …

Stuttering: How to Never be Nervous Around People?

Stuttering: How to Never be Nervous Around People?

In this counseling answer: • Remember, Allah loves you the way you are. • Those who stand by your side and do not judge you for your stutter are good friends to have. Surround yourself with them, and ignore the rest. • Try to mix with others, even if just at a minimal level to …

Husband Married Me for Visa

Husband Married Me for Visa

In this counseling answer: • Go for marriage counseling. •Seriously consider divorcing him if all else fails. •Make istikharah. As Salamu ‘Alaykumdear sister, I am sorry to hear of the situation that you are going through. I know it can be painful when a marriage is not working out, or when one’s spouse changes and …

Forced Marriage Has Ruined My Life

Forced Marriage Has Ruined My Life

In this counseling answer: • You can respectfully decline a request from your parents or show them kindness and care without obeying them. •Marriage is ultimately left to your own personal choice. Parents can at best only offer you advice or suggestions. •There is nothing wrong with looking for personality compatibility and attraction in a …

I Feel Ashamed of My Uneducated Fiancé

I Feel Ashamed of My Uneducated Fiancé

In this counseling answer: • Do you really need a highly qualified partner despite the excellent character he might possess? • Stop comparing your life with others because it will bring a fall. • You need to decide who you want in life. Dear sister, Love and attraction have great depth, and the love of …



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