Polygamy is often seen as the end of a happy marriage, but this is not always true. Take it from me, I’m a happily married first wife and I’m friend with my co-wife, Masha’ Allah; in fact she’s sitting in the same room while I’m typing this polygamy survival guide. Polygamy can work if the …

In this counseling answer: • Islam allows the man to have more than one wife if only the man keeps a balance between the two or more wives and keep them equally well. This is a huge challenge many men, unfortunately, disregard when they think of marrying a second wife. • Look at the situation from an …

In this counseling answer: • The first step you must take is to sincerely turn to Allah and beg Him for His Forgiveness, His Mercy, and His Help in overcoming this huge challenge in your life. • Counseling is most definitely a necessary step to take. • I recommend that you look into books, articles, …

When you find out your husband wants to have another wife or has actually married again, one of the first questions that plagues you is: why? Yes, it is allowed in Islam, but so are many things which have less impact on people’s lives yet are conveniently forgotten – Qiyam ul Lail anyone? So, why …

In this counseling answer: • Islam does not give anyone the right to force you to remain in a marriage against your will, especially if it is with regards to a matter that you know is detrimental to you. • Our relationship with Allah should never be dependent on other people – people can and …

In this counseling answer: • If your husband is seeking another marriage, it is appropriate for him to discuss this matter and be transparent as his decision will affect your family. • If you do not accept this practice for your own personal reasons, you will need to make a decision as to whether divorcing …

In this counseling answer: • Islam prohibits secret marriages. • Lying is also prohibited in Islam. •Have a serious discussion with your husband. If he insists on getting you to lie for him, then be upfront: that you will not do so, as lying is prohibited in Islam, to begin with. It is absolutely his …

In this counseling answer: • Please, sister, if you feel suicidal at any time, call the local suicidal hotline! • Instead of focusing entirely on pleasing him, focus on pleasing yourself. • Take time each day to remember your blessings, especially in terms of the talents that Allah has bestowed upon you, however small they …

In this counseling answer: •You need to seriously ask yourself what you value more: the very real blessing that you already have – a happy marriage with your current wife – or the prospect of great difficulty, and even more painful emotional turmoil should you seek to marry another woman for the sake of having …

In this counseling answer: • It would not be very beneficial for you to involve yourself further with this man until such time as he has figured out what is going on with his current wife. • I strongly recommend that you wait until he resolves his situation by either divorcing his current wife or …