Throughout 1438 we received hundreds of questions from our readers about different aspects of life, today we bring to you the top 10 Q&A of the last Hijri year for both parenting and general counseling pages. We hope you find it useful.
Marriage is a sacred institution. With its sole purpose of establishing a family, marriage is more of a combination of love, respect, trust, communication, and commitment. It is not easy to settle in and adjust with another person.
Firstly, let me reassure you that you did the right thing to stop meeting with each other to avoid falling deeper into zina. Meeting with a sister alone outside of marriage is forbidden in Islam for this very reason; that it can lead to zina.
What a couple can do in case the husband has erectile problems. How to maintain a healthy marital relationship despite the challenges. What are the most important components of male and female sexuality?
I first would like to tell you that it is not haraam or disliked to not have sexual intercourse on that same night that the Islamic marriage took place. It is not haraam to postpone your first sexual contact with your wife.
Your question is most important in terms of your personal choices as a Muslimah and as a young woman. While the norm in Islam is to marry young and begin a family, a few sisters are opting to prolong marriage.
Dreams come from three sources: Allah (swt), Shaitan, and our selves (anxieties). Dreams from our own anxieties come from things like feeling in danger or that we will fail at something that is too demanding on us.
Should a second marriage be disclosed in the family? What should be down when a husband decides to marry another wife What does a first wife feel and how to help her accept her husband’s new wife.
The reason this is the first step and so important is because Shaitan capitalized on hate and self-hatred. To counteract his false way of “growth”.
If he is unable due to work obligations, perhaps get together with other sisters with children to see if you can form a sister group to support each other.
In a relationship, male and female have different rights and obligations, and I think the first thing we should discuss is the husband’s role in a marriage and what it means to support the wife from an “Islamic perspective.”
I am sure you were shocked to discover your son has been masturbating. Especially that you caught him doing it, I am sure your son was embarrassed as well. This is a very emotionally charged age.
While you could threaten her, you would not like the results. It would only serve to make her want to run further away from the hijab as she may associate it with punishment and manipulation.
I am sorry to hear about the situation you are in. While I do not know your age, how many months you are pregnant or the financial circumstances, it is a hard decision nonetheless.
Your sexual life with your husband is a very important part of marriage. It is a way in which couples connect physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. It is also a time in which intimate talking and bonding occur as well as cuddling and de-stressing.
In your question, you say you respect your son because “he has taken his relationship with God so seriously.” That’s great, ma sha’ Allah. I’m assuming from what you said that he wants to be a Muslim, but he feels frustrated by how Muslims have treated him.
In essence, you have in fact answered your own questions by saying “both are major sins.” Because of this, I cannot say which—masturbation or pre-marital sex—is worse. We cannot separate the religious aspects from the physical or sociological aspects.
Your parents are probably concerned for your safety and well-being. It is often difficult for parents to ‘let go’ and allow their child their first taste of independence. As parents, we feel an enormous responsibility to keep our children safe.
fully understand your situation. When I was pregnant or nursing, I could not fast at all, not even one day. I would get so dizzy that I could not function at all. All I could do is lie down. So, I decided that I should not fast.
You stated you wanted to keep the baby with hopes that the baby’s father will come back. Sister, that is faulty thinking and not one that will likely produce good results. First of all, he left you and the unborn child
Al hamdu Lillah, and ma sha `Allah, that you took it upon yourself to become a mother to this boy by virtue of marrying his father. It is a blessing indeed that the mother figure that he needs in his life is present again – and may you honor him with your love and compassion in sha Allah.