First Wife Refuses to Accept My Second Wife

06 June, 2017
Q Assalam wa alaikum. I am married for 17 years and have three children. Three months ago, I did second marriage, with a divorced woman and a mother of three, abroad. My marriage was disclosed in Pakistan after a few days, which i did not deny. It has been three months now, my first wife is not coming to terms with it. My second wife is still abroad. I have tried every way to relax and calm my first wife, I have even taken her to a psychiatrist, at her own request, but that is not working either. My first wife at times gets very normal and talks favorably about my second wife, but then again after a few days starts again. My first wife had demanded a divorce from me many times now, and also has demanded, that either divorce me or divorce the second wife. I am at loss, how to handle her, I have tried everything. She has been using citalopram and resperidone for the past month, but it does not seem to work either.

Answer

As-Salamu ‘Aleikom,

In this video, you will learn about:

Should a second marriage be disclosed in the family?

What should be down when a husband decides to marry another wife

What does a first wife feel and how to help her accept her husband’s new wife

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About Aisha Mohammad
Aisha received her PhD in psychology in 2000 and an MS in public health in 2009. Aisha worked as a Counselor/Psychologist for 12 years for Geneva B. Scruggs Community Health Care Center in New York. Aisha specializes in trauma, depression, anxiety, substance abuse, marriage/relationships issues, as well as community-cultural dynamics. She is certified in Restorative Justice/ Healing Circles, Conflict Resolution, Mediation, and is also a certified Life Coach.
Aisha works at a Family Resource Center, and has a part-time practice in which she integrates healing and spirituality using a holistic approach. Aisha plans to open a holistic care counseling center for Muslims and others in the New York area in the future, in sha' Allah. Aisha is also a part of several organizations that advocate for social & food justice. In her spare time she enjoys her family, martial arts classes, Islamic studies as well as working on her book and spoken word projects.