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First Wife Refuses to Accept My Second Wife

06 June, 2017
Q Assalam wa alaikum. I am married for 17 years and have three children. Three months ago, I did second marriage, with a divorced woman and a mother of three, abroad. My marriage was disclosed in Pakistan after a few days, which i did not deny. It has been three months now, my first wife is not coming to terms with it. My second wife is still abroad. I have tried every way to relax and calm my first wife, I have even taken her to a psychiatrist, at her own request, but that is not working either. My first wife at times gets very normal and talks favorably about my second wife, but then again after a few days starts again. My first wife had demanded a divorce from me many times now, and also has demanded, that either divorce me or divorce the second wife. I am at loss, how to handle her, I have tried everything. She has been using citalopram and resperidone for the past month, but it does not seem to work either.


As-Salamu ‘Aleikom,

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About Aisha Mohammad
Aisha has a PhD in psychology, an MS in public health and a PsyD. Aisha worked as a Counselor/Psychologist for 12 years at Geneva B. Scruggs Community Health Care Center in New York. She has worked with clients with mental health issues such as anxiety, depression, panic disorder, trauma, and OCD. She also facilitated support groups and provided specialized services for victims of domestic violence, HIV positive individuals, as well youth/teen issues. Aisha is certified in Mindfulness, Trauma Informed Care, Behavioral Management, Restorative Justice/ Healing Circles, Conflict Resolution, Mediation, and Confidentiality & Security. Aisha is also a Certified Life Coach, and Relationship Workshop facilitator. Aisha has a part-time Life Coaching practice in which she integrates the educational concepts of stress reduction, mindfulness, introspection, empowerment, self love and acceptance and spirituality to create a holistic healing journey for clients. Aisha is also a part of several organizations that advocates for prisoner rights/reentry, social & food justice, as well as advocating for an end to oppression & racism. In her spare time, Aisha enjoys her family, photography, nature, martial arts classes, Islamic studies, volunteering/charity work, as well as working on her book and spoken word projects.