For example, a woman who is raped, she doesn't abort the child or commits suicide, but for the sake of Allah takes care of the child and brings him up with Islamic manner. But whenever she looks at the child, he reminds her of that terrible moment.
Is Jannah really that good to wipe away the sorrow the woman is feeling? Won't a person feel so much anger? Will Jannah make her feel happy again?
Answer
In this counseling answer:
• The only option for us is to put your trust in Allah in this matter.
• Trials are a means to purify the heart and expiate sins.
• Seek counseling to overcome the psychological consequences.
Assalamu alaikum wa Rahmatullah wa barakatuh sister,
I don’t know if the experience you are referring to is something that you have been through personally, or you know someone who has, or even of you are just disturbed by the fact that such things happen. Of course, in this life, we cannot possibly imagine that it is possible to let go of the negative feelings that we experience in this life, especially the incredibly traumatic experiences such as those you have referred to here.
There is much we cannot comprehend about the afterlife, one of them being the experience in Jannah and jahanam. It would seem incomprehensible that one could feel content after having experienced such trauma, even if it is in Jannah.
This is where the only option for us is to put your trust in Allah in this matter.
With an unseen matter, this can be difficult, but you can help to make this easy by getting closer to ALLAH in the things that strengthen this belief a lot easier, such reading and connecting to the Qur’an and reading educational Islamic materials. As your belief becomes stronger, it becomes a lot easier to accept those things that we cannot see and feel content with them even if we can’t see it.
Another thing to focus in here that will help you to question your current thoughts is to refer to the numerous ayats and ahadeeth that refer to the notion of trials in this life and how your response to them.
Trials are a means to purify the heart and expiate sins. On top of this, it is important to remember those Prophets before us who faced great trials, greater than we could ever imagine. So, what makes us think that we are any more special that we don’t deserve to face such trials.
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Furthermore, if this person is you yourself, or someone close, I would urge you, or the person to seek counseling to overcome the psychological consequences you/they have faced at the hands of such a horrific event. This will also be assisting overcoming any possible doubts that one may have over the beauty of Jannah as you come to terms with how to manage any emotions felt as a result of this event.
These suggestions go for anyone who experiences traumatic events in their life and they can also lead to similar resulting thoughts and emotions.
May Allah ease any pain you or any of our fellow brothers and sisters and grant them the highest place in Jannah free of pain and distress.
Amen,
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