Answer
In this counseling answer:
•Tell her you noticed how grown she has become lately and that with growing comes changes.
•Explain to her what to expect regarding puberty both physically and emotionally.
•Share what you went through and how you felt at her age.
•Ask her what she has heard about menstruation, babies, and sex. When she responds, make her feel as comfortable as possible by not getting upset if you hear something that displeases you.
As-salamu alaykum,
Thank you for writing to us for your question. It is a common concern most parents dread!
However, insha’Allah things will go smoothly for both you and your daughter regarding this topic. First, your daughter already knows more than you thought.
This is common. Children talk among themselves, search out answers to their questions and often shock parents with what they do know! This dear sister, you cannot prevent.
However, insha’Allah, you can be the source for her answers concerning her curiosity.
•Take her out for lunch or go somewhere calm and comfortable. Tell her you noticed how grown she has become lately and that with growing comes changes.
•Explain to her what to expect regarding puberty both physically and emotionally. Share what you went through and how you felt at her age.
•Ask her what she has heard about menstruation, babies and sex. When she responds, make her feel as comfortable as possible by not getting upset if you hear something that displeases you.
•Gently correct any false information she may have learned, and replace it with the truth. If she asks you questions you feel she is too young to ask, remember-she asked you so she needs to know as it is obviously on her mind. If you refuse to answer or tell her she’s too young, she will just seek the answers elsewhere.
Conclusion
Sister, this is hard for many parents, but you and your daughter are about to embark upon a new phase in her life, insha’Allah, together.
Your goal is to make her feel she can come to you with any question or concern she has, assured you will give her a loving, truthful response and not make her feel insignificant in her curiosity.
It is often difficult for parents to begin to let go of the little girl they once cuddled and read bedtime stories to, and embrace a budding young lady. But somehow, as mom’s, we do get through it!
And Allah knows best.
Salam,
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