When we reach “Ihsan”, the level of real goodness in our lives, everything we do is for Allah’s sake – and people will see it! There are some people we meet in life who have a big impact on us because they are such good people. As Muslims, we strive each day to become like those people.
“It’s nice to be nice” – such a common phrase, almost everyone knows it. But it begs the question… is it? Is it nice to be nice? How many times have you made the effort for someone to ignore you, treat you bad or take advantage of your niceness?
Allah loves kindness and gentleness in all matters, so we should manifest these qualities even when we face abuse and cruelty. On one occasion, the Prophet was insulted and cursed by his enemies but he did not return their curse…
Muslims in Britain ascribe to many diverse points of view, some will celebrate the Prophet’s birthday while others will not. Irrespective of any person’s disposition, my view is to mark this occasion with thoughts of an attribute which Prophet Muhammad identified in a truly profound way, manners.
When someone is hostile towards you, anger is a natural response. However, just because you have been provoked gives you no excuse to react in a hostile manner. There is great wisdom in controlling anger, as succumbing to it can lead to a host of negative scenarios that are difficult to extricate yourself from.
It is frustrating that some Muslims act as though the teaching of Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) does not encompass them and fail to incorporate them practically into their lives. Injustice has become so sickly prevalent not just among non Muslims but unfortunately among Muslims as well.
Calm enhances one’s good qualities and makes one’s bad qualities seem less serious. Even a wrongdoer, if he maintains his composure and good manners, is more likely to be excused for his wrongdoing.
Having good manners when socializing isn’t just a plus factor when dealing with people in this temporary abode of this life, but even more so, it is part and parcel of pleasing God in His Grandiosity.
What does it feel like to be growing up as a Muslim in the current sociopolitical climate? Do you have the social support and resources to help you navigate the challenges you face daily at school, with your friends, and even at home?
How many school-going children or university graduates demonstrate good manners when interacting with others? How many adults – who have paved their lucrative career paths – are able to engage in ethical transactions at all times to honor their clients, stakeholders and employees, for the sake of God?