If you are assigned to a study group in a class that is mixed gender and you cannot switch, instead of studying alone in a dorm room, go to the library where it is public and safe.
If you feel uncomfortable telling them it is because of your faith, then tell them it is better to study outside of the area you sleep in because your mind associates that room with rest.
If you are speaking with someone of the opposite gender, be aware of your choice of words and don’t take things like flirting lightly.
If someone says something inappropriate, then immediately tell them and leave the situation. This will make it clear you demand respect and will not tolerate anything less.
DO NOT BE ALONE WITH THEM. This is not negotiable and I cannot think of a situation in college where you are forced to be alone.
College campuses have a variety of study areas where students can meet in a well-lit, open, and safe environment.
Dating
Your non-Muslim friends in college will be dating, and some of them will have what is called “friends with benefits” (they are just friends but engage in sex).
While you might feel a desire to try this, I would suggest you also pay attention to the effects these types of relationships cause.
You will notice many of those friends with benefits end up not being friends because one of them develops feelings and wants a commitment so they end up heartbroken.
Unwanted pregnancies will be happening, and undoubtedly some will be getting abortions while others will be becoming single mothers.
You will see heartbreak, betrayal, and regret played over and over with them.
Not to mention the incredibly high rate of sexually transmitted diseases on college campuses. You are literally risking your fertility if you fall into this.
If you find someone you are genuinely interested in as a life partner, then talk to your parents about it and see if this is a viable option for marriage in the future. It is not haram to get to know someone in a safe and permissible manner with families involved.
Please understand that love is not haram, but the casual dating you see on campus is more of lust than love.
Parties
College is full of parties. Every weekend you will see them and likely will be invited.
This type of environment is very dangerous, especially for someone who has never been exposed to it and doesn’t really know what to expect or how to react.
Your best bet is to avoid these and find polite ways to decline, such as “I’m sorry man, but I really need to study for the midterms” or just casually say you prefer to be home relaxing.
Pages: 1 2 3“They ask you about wine and gambling. Say, “In them is great sin and [yet, some] benefit for people. But their sin is greater than their benefit…”[Quran 2:219]