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Past Abuse: I Am Scared of Getting Married

27 August, 2023
Q I don’t want to get married. Even though I have found a very gentle man as my fiancé but suddenly I want to distance myself from him. I want to run away from this place and everybody whom I know. I don’t want to be with someone. P.S. I was in abusive relationship before my engagement. I don’t know what to do now...


The trauma of abuse might have a huge impact on you and on your future relationships. Being scared of your future partner is a natural response to what you have gone through. 

If you enter into marriage without healing, the negative experiences of the past could still haunt you and destroy your loving relationship. 

Counseling and group therapy are really worth trying, as they can assist you in moving forward. 

Also, there are support groups. Join one and share your experience with others who have gone through the same struggle. You learn from each other and heal together. 

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About Aisha Mohammad
Aisha has a PhD in psychology, an MS in public health and a PsyD. Aisha worked as a Counselor/Psychologist for 12 years at Geneva B. Scruggs Community Health Care Center in New York. She has worked with clients with mental health issues such as anxiety, depression, panic disorder, trauma, and OCD. She also facilitated support groups and provided specialized services for victims of domestic violence, HIV positive individuals, as well youth/teen issues. Aisha is certified in Mindfulness, Trauma Informed Care, Behavioral Management, Restorative Justice/ Healing Circles, Conflict Resolution, Mediation, and Confidentiality & Security. Aisha is also a Certified Life Coach, and Relationship Workshop facilitator. Aisha has a part-time Life Coaching practice in which she integrates the educational concepts of stress reduction, mindfulness, introspection, empowerment, self love and acceptance and spirituality to create a holistic healing journey for clients. Aisha is also a part of several organizations that advocates for prisoner rights/reentry, social & food justice, as well as advocating for an end to oppression & racism. In her spare time, Aisha enjoys her family, photography, nature, martial arts classes, Islamic studies, volunteering/charity work, as well as working on her book and spoken word projects.