Will Covid-19 Be the Last Straw to My Marriage?

16 April, 2020
Q MY husband and I work from home. 24/7 at home drives our nerves, and we fight a lot.

I fear by the end of this virus issue, we will end up divorcing each other.

We are tensed with work. We don't have children yet.


In this counseling answer:

Structure work space away from each other in the home.

Try and maintain social distance from each other to avoid getting on each others nerves.

Jot down negative feelings on a piece of paper.

As salamu alaykum,

Shokran for writing to our live session. Sister it seems that a lot of people who are working from home with their spouses are experiencing irritation and friction.

Not only are you confined 24/7 in the home but there is the underlying fear about the covid19 and what is going to happen.

Structured Schedules and Work Spaces

I kindly suggest insha’Allah that you and your husband structure your work spaces so that they are as far apart as possible.

Try to treat your work day as a regular day at the office.

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That will take some discipline on both of your parts to remain in your own areas of the home tasks because you are already home.

However if you are able to do this it will lessen your interaction as well as help you to focus better on your work.

Create a poster board of your schedules for the day. Each one would have a separate schedule that is posted above your work space.


You may wish to make an agreement not to talk to each other until lunch time (and possibly prayer times together), when you may wish to have lunch together.

By implementing separation and social distance in the home (even in the strict measures of social distance outside of the home), you may be able to avoid the irritation.

You will also bypass the fighting that is occurring now, due to the stressors’ of this whole pandemic.

Make an agreement to not say mean things to one another until after the pandemic has passed.

If one of you feels like saying something that is not nice-write it down, and save it for after this is over. 

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Current Feelings and Behaviors

In reality, if the current stressors’ did not exist, you and your husband probably would not fight and get on each others nerves.

However given the situation, everybody is more or less tense, fearful, and uncertain of what is going to happen.

This in itself can cause irritation, short tempers, in other words irrational behaviors.


Insha’Allah, each of you can devise schedules for the day and post it above your workspace, and adhere to it.

Maintain separate work spaces which are far away from each other as possible.

Agree to adhere to your schedules and agreements and meet for lunch in a neutral place in the house.

Agree that you will not speak to each during your work schedules just as  you would at your jobs in the physical, until lunch.

Insha’Allah this will help! We wish you the best.



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About Aisha Mohammad
Aisha received her PhD in psychology in 2000 and an MS in public health in 2009. Aisha worked as a Counselor/Psychologist for 12 years for Geneva B. Scruggs Community Health Care Center in New York. Aisha specializes in trauma, depression, anxiety, substance abuse, marriage/relationships issues, as well as community-cultural dynamics. She is certified in Restorative Justice/ Healing Circles, Conflict Resolution, Mediation, and is also a certified Life Coach. Aisha works at a Family Resource Center, and has a part-time practice in which she integrates healing and spirituality using a holistic approach. Aisha plans to open a holistic care counseling center for Muslims and others in the New York area in the future, in sha' Allah. Aisha is also a part of several organizations that advocate for social & food justice. In her spare time she enjoys her family, martial arts classes, Islamic studies as well as working on her book and spoken word projects.