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Wa ’Alaikum Salaam my dear sister in Islam,
The fact that your husband did haram things before marriage made him unsuitable for you as a husband (as you are not a fornicator and he was). Because he does not pray, fast, etc., he is unsuitable for you as a husband and as a father to your children (as they may not pray and fast either if their father does not). The fact that he is having ongoing calls with his coworkers and does not care about you makes him unsuitable for you for marriage. You having to support yourself and your kids financially make him unsuitable for you.
You may want to try talking to him first (even by involving your or his family) about that you wish he was more concerned about Allah the teachings of Islam, but if you see there is no hope he would change for the better, I personally see absolutely no basis for you NOT to lawfully divorce your husband. I would recommend it not just for your happiness but for your children’s souls! As their mother, it is your first duty to protect them. Caring for your husband is your reciprocal responsibility to him – and there is nothing (or almost nothing) that he is doing which has earned any such reciprocation. Your children, on the other hand, are your charge; you are directly responsible for their care and upbringing as Muslims, and he is a very serious threat to that responsibility on your part. According to AboutIslam scholar, divorce is lawful for this very reason.
I hope that you will seriously consider getting away from this man before he does any serious damage to your children. Your children are babies now, but soon, In Sha’ Allah, they will begin imitating your husband (in his failure to practice Islam), and I am sure you do not want them to do that. If you leave him, you can tell them why (he did not fulfill his duties toward Allah and you), and they will be able to understand the validity of that reason easily, In Sha’ Allah.
May Allah make it easy for you whatever you decide to do.
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