How to Protect our Kids from Sexual Assault?

01 July, 2020
Q Hello, I found a lot of news reports about sexual assault and harassment at schools and clubs and so on, and this makes me terribly afraid for my children.

Can you please give us some tips on how to protect our children from such assaults? Thank you

Answer

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•If we teach our children right and give them a strong Islamic foundation they will make wise choices when it comes to who and where they hang out.

•Talking to your children about what is sexual assault and harassment can also prepare them and teach them how to keep safe, or at least reduce their risks.

•Keeping open communication with your children is vital insha’Allah as if anything does happen they will feel safe and secure to come to you and let you know.

•Some parents have their children take classes in self-defense which I personally recommend as I feel every child, person should be taught how to defend themselves against assaults or harm.


As-salamu alaykum,

Yes we are living in scary times indeed and we especially fear for our children. There are so many things out there that can harm them, that it is too numerous to list, sadly.

Insha’Allah if we teach our children right and give them a strong Islamic foundation they will make wise choices when it comes to who and where they hang out.

Talking to your children about what is sexual assault and harassment can also prepare them and teach them how to keep safe, or at least reduce their risks.

Keeping open communication with your children is vital insha’Allah as if anything does happen they will feel safe and secure to come to you and let you know.

How to Protect our Kids from Sexual Assault? - About Islam

Some parents have their children take classes in self-defense which I personally recommend as I feel every child, person should be taught how to defend themselves against assaults or harm.

Even if the perpetrator is an adult and bigger, at least a child will have some basic skills of defending oneself or maneuvering oneself to get away. These are but a few suggestions.

In the end, we must rely upon Allah SWT for protection, keep our children in duaa for protection as well as building a solid foundation of knowledge and communication with our children. Becoming excessively fearful is not good either.

While the risks are there, chances are your children will not be victims insha’Allah. While we want to teach and warn our children, we also don’t want them to live in a constant state of fear either.


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The balance is delicate, but with vigilance, education, communication, strong Islamic values and prayer, insha’Allah your children will be fine.


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About Aisha Mohammad
Aisha received her PhD in psychology in 2000 and an MS in public health in 2009. Aisha worked as a Counselor/Psychologist for 12 years for Geneva B. Scruggs Community Health Care Center in New York. Aisha specializes in trauma, depression, anxiety, substance abuse, marriage/relationships issues, as well as community-cultural dynamics. She is certified in Restorative Justice/ Healing Circles, Conflict Resolution, Mediation, and is also a certified Life Coach.
Aisha works at a Family Resource Center, and has a part-time practice in which she integrates healing and spirituality using a holistic approach. Aisha plans to open a holistic care counseling center for Muslims and others in the New York area in the future, in sha' Allah. Aisha is also a part of several organizations that advocate for social & food justice. In her spare time she enjoys her family, martial arts classes, Islamic studies as well as working on her book and spoken word projects.