Short Answer: Pious Muslims will be reunited in Paradise with those of their family members who were righteous like them. So, it is hoped that the same will be true for you and your husband. Whenever you are overcome with regret, just seek Allah’s forgiveness for your past sins. Ask Allah to forgive you for arguing with your husband, and for exposing his faults to others.………….
Asalaamu alaykum, and thank you for sending in your question to our website.
First of all, I am very sorry to hear about your loss, sister. I ask Allah to grant you patience during this calamity. Losing one’s spouse during young age is not easy. The same goes for single-parenting a young child. I ask Allah to make this trying phase easy for you. May you be granted pleasure with Allah’s decree.
Surely, this is a great trial of faith for you, as well as your daughter. However, time heals every wound. Plus, there is immense wisdom in whatever Allah preordains for us.
Signs of a good end
Sister, it is hoped that your husband has reached a good end, Allah willing. You mentioned that he performed umrah just a few months before dying. Hopefully, Allah has forgiven most if not all of his sins through it. Also, Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said that a Muslim who dies of an abdominal disease or plague, is a martyr. That is why, we hope that your husband is in a better place than the one he left behind.
Rest assured, whatever Allah decreed, is best for your husband, as it is for you. Please continue to make dua for his forgiveness whenever you think of him.
Regrets over your arguments
Now that your husband is no more, it is natural that you regret the arguments that you both had. To an extent, it is normal for a husband and wife to disagree, from time to time. What is disliked, however, is fighting very often, or hurting each other.
Nevertheless, what is past is past. It can never be undone. So, whenever you are overcome with regret, just seek Allah’s forgiveness for your past sins. Ask Allah to forgive you for arguing with your husband, and for exposing his faults to others.
Surely, if your repentance is sincere, Allah will quickly forgive you. Never doubt that for a moment!
“...surely, Allah forgives all sins..” [39:53]
Together in the Hereafter?
As for your question about whether you will be with him in the next life, Allah says in the Quran:
“Gardens of perpetual residence; they will enter them with whoever were righteous among their parents, their spouses and their offspring…” [13:23]
The above verse of Quran is very clear. It states that pious Muslims will be reunited in Paradise with those of their family members who were righteous like them. So, it is hoped that the same will be true for you and your husband.
There are also Prophetic sayings about a Muslim woman whose husband died, and she married more than once. She will be in Paradise with either her last husband, or the one with the best morals. For more details, please visit this link. And Allah knows best.
As for your 6-year-old daughter, the fact is that she is still very young. Although surely, right now, she misses her father very much. But what is true is that, like I said already, time heals the deepest of wounds. Most adults do not remember life events that took place at such a young age. Since this is Allah’s decree for her, it is for the best.
Strengthened by your dua’s and support, this difficult phase will only make her stronger in life. So please try to keep her occupied, and remember to always stay positive.
I hope that this answers your questions.
Salam. Please stay in touch.
(From Ask About Islam archives)
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