My husband, at the time my fiancé, said that is not needed. Red flag is ignored.
Fast forward 2 years and 1 baby later our marriage has deteriorated the main reason is intimacy he has issues from day one. And I tried to help, tried to give advice. All he could do is make it feel like my problem. 2 years later with a non-existent satisfying intimate life I found out he was not married before and he cohabited with his "ex-wife". Photos - intimate photos were uncovered.
I confronted him and his response was he spoke to a sheik who said it was fine to hide the past even though he lied to me he was never married. And he refused to do the tests. He took away my informed choice at the time pre-marriage.
He has no remorse and still believes what he did is right. To add fuel to the fire he kept the same bed that slept on for 2 years. I am heart broken and mortified, embarrassed and feel disgusting.
Because of my baby I am sitting in the same home wondering what to do. He has no remorse and instead is upset with me.
Answer
He might not have told the truth to you, as this was the advice he got from the sheik. He might have felt ashamed to tell you that his previous relationship was not a marriage.
If he sincerely repented, he could expect the forgiveness of Allah for his past sins. You can try to forgive him for not revealing his past completely.
If you have problems with intimacy in your marriage, it is very recommended that you work on them with a counselor.
Talk to your husband with compassion. Let him know that you want to heal your marriage and find a solution together.
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