But one night my brother put me in a situation of genes where I gave in and I revealed that I loved this girl but she suffered this rape and my brother told me that he personally would never want to marry a girl who suffered this. But I don’t think that at all and he told me to impose his idea and so I cut off contact with this girl.
I do not give up marrying her on the contrary I think that since she was tested by this test it proves that Allah loves her because Allah only tests the people he loves. And if my brothers have this kind of idea that’s why he never had such a situation. Sorry for the length of my text. I hope you would advise me.May Allah reward you.
Answer
We all arrive at marriages with certain issues. Unfortunately, some of us with heavier ones.
If you are emotionally involved with someone prior to marrying her, you might have a hard time taking a neutral approach and listening to others’ advice regarding your choice.
Put your feelings aside and examine the reasons behind your brother’s opinion.
Whether you agree with him or not, it is good to see things through a broader scope and reflect upon alternative perspectives.
How to deal with a situation like this?
Check out Sr. Hannah’s advice.
Read more from Sr. Hannah Morris:
- I Have a Skin Disease: Will I Ever Get Married?
- How to Deal with My Narcissistic Mother?
- Is There Any Cure for a Diseased Heart?
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