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I Have a Skin Disease: Will I Ever Get Married?

26 May, 2022
Q Assalaamu alaikum. I am 21 years old girl. I am suffering from a disease which is not curable and for which I have to take medicines lifelong. I am getting marriage proposals but I don’t want to get married without informing the boy about the disease I am suffering from. This disease can also affect my married life. I’m suffering from psoriasis which is visible and affect my skin condition . I am feeling into depression because of this disease of mine. I don’t understand what to do. Please, guide me and help me. Thank you. Jazak Allah khair.

Answer

In this counseling answer, Sr. Hannah Morris explains what are the benefits of treating marriage proposals with open disclosure about your health condition. 

Hiding things from our future spouse is not fortunate, and won’t be a solution in the long run. It increases the feelings of guilt in you, while on your spouse’s side the feelings of deception and betrayal.

As skin diseases are mostly visible, your future spouse probably will be aware of your condition from the very beginning. So choosing you, despite your illness means that he fully accepts you and is willing to love you for who you are, and this is a very promising beginning for a marriage. 

What thoughts are behind these feelings of sadness and depression? Learning to be confident and accepting of ourselves as we were created by Allah decreases negative thoughts and depressive feelings.

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About Hannah Morris
Hannah Morris is a mum of 4 and she currently works as Counsellor and Instructor of BSc. Psychology at the Islamic Online University (IOU). She obtained her MA degree in Psychology and has over 10 years of experience working in health and social care settings in the UK, USA, and Ireland. Check out her personal Facebook page, ActiveMindCare, that promotes psychological well-being in the Ummah. (www.facebook.com/activemindcare)