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Stop Practicing Islam Or You’ll Be Kicked Out of the House!

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Sara

Reply Date

Apr 02, 2018

Question

Salam dear consultants. I'm a 17-year-old convert and live with my family. They don't like my decision to become a Muslim. So, I can't practice Islamic rituals on a regular basis so far because I'm afraid to be kicked out of the house. Can I stop practicing Islam until I'm old enough to take care of myself financially? Thank you.

Consultant

Answer


Stop Practicing Islam

Short Answer:  Your parents care for you, but you need to be patient with them. Try to live quietly and simply and modestly as a good Muslim, without looking for a fight or to rub your Islam in their faces. Show them by your goodness and happiness that Islam has actually made you a better person.

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Assalamu Alaykum Sister Sara,

Thank you for your question and for contacting Ask About Islam.

It is quite natural in this modern age that your parents have found it difficult to accept your decision to become Muslim.

Their only knowledge of Islam has probably come from the TV and newspapers, where Muslims are portrayed as fanatical and extreme – as indeed some are!

Your parents care for you and don’t want you to be kidnapped by bad people or led astray to harm yourself or others. They don’t want you going off to fight in foreign lands.

It is not surprising, then, that they find your choice difficult to accept.

Be Patient & Wise

As a 17-year old, you need to be patient with them. Understand how they feel.

I am not sure, though, which “rituals” you refer to.

You don’t need to pray in front of them. You can do this in your room.

You don’t need to wear hijab in front of them. They are your close family.

So what is it that you can’t do?

You can’t be made to drink alcohol or to eat foods you don’t want to eat.

Try to live quietly and simply and modestly as a good Muslim, without looking for a fight or to rub your Islam in their faces.

Show them by your goodness and happiness that Islam has actually made you better, rather than worse.

I often tell people that we can let others know about Islam without ever mentioning Islam.

You don’t need to sit down and discuss Islamic teaching with your parents. Show them, instead, by the goodness of your life, that Islam is both beautiful and sweet.

I hope that this makes sense.

Salam and please keep in touch.

(From Ask About Islam archives)

Please continue feeding your curiosity, and find more info in the following links:

A Letter to the Families of New Muslims

How to Tell Your Family You Converted? An Inspiring Story

New Muslims – All You Need in Your New Life

 




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Idris Tawfiq was a British writer, public speaker and consultant.He became a Muslim around 15 years ago.For many years, he was head of religious education in different schools in the United Kingdom.Before embracing Islam, he was a Roman Catholic priest.He passed away in peace in the UK in February 2016 after a period of illness.May Allah (SWT) have mercy on him, and accept his good deeds. Ameen.

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