When I was 17 years old, I had a dream. I dreamed that I was sitting inside a masjid and a little girl walked up to ask me a question. She asked me:
“Why do people have to leave each other?”
Ultimately, the question was about the nature of the dunya as a place of fleeting moments and temporary attachments… as a place where people are with you today, and leave or die tomorrow.
But this reality hurts our very being because it goes against our nature. We, as humans, are made to seek, love, and strive for what is perfect and what is permanent.
And we are made to seek what’s eternal. We seek this because we were not made for this life. Our first and true home was Paradise: a land that is both perfect and eternal. So the yearning for that type of life is a part of our very being.
That’s why leaving hurts. It goes against everything we are made to yearn for. Allah put a yearning in us that can only be fulfilled by what is eternal and perfect.
Yet he gives us samples. Everything in this life is just a sample of the hereafter. We have samples of Hell. And we see fire here; we know what it feels like to burn. We know what puss or boiling water is like.
But we also have samples of Paradise on this earth. And there is no closer sample on this earth than Makkah and Madinah. What closer land could there be to Paradise than the point directly below al bayt al ma’moor in the heavens?
And yet it’s just a sample. We had to leave. Just as Adam and his children had to leave Paradise for a while—we too had to leave. We had to leave the Paradise of this earth.
And that is exactly the nature of dunya. It is a string of moments. Some moments are full of peace. Some moments are full of pain. But it’s all just moments. Fleeting. Our separation from the awe, peace, and majesty of being in the presence of the ka’bah, is symbolic of our separation from Paradise.
Leaving Makkah for me is just part of the greater sunnah of this life: a place where we must eventually leave the people and things we love most.
But there is one thing that we never have to leave. One thing that never passes away. Only one thing: Allah. Allah tells us:
Everyone upon the earth will perish, And there will remain the Face of your Lord, Owner of Majesty and Honor. (55:26-27)
And do not invoke with Allah another deity. There is no deity except Him. Everything will be destroyed except His Face. His is the judgment, and to Him you will be returned. (28:88)
And He is closer than our jugular vein.
It was We Who created man, and We know what dark suggestions his soul makes to him: for We are nearer to him than (his) jugular vein. (50:16)
So often we look for Allah out there. And so the separation from somewhere like Makkah becomes paralyzing. But our connection with Allah isn’t out there. It’s in here.
Yes, Adam had to leave Paradise for a while, but what did Allah also promise Adam when he was leaving?
We said: ‘Get ye down all from here; and if, as is sure, there comes to you Guidance from me, whosoever follows My guidance, on them shall be no fear, nor shall they grieve.’ (2:38)
We had to leave the Ka’bah. And it hurt. So much. But we never have to leave Allah. Unless we choose to. Unless WE choose to turn our backs on Him. But He is always there. It’s we who chose to turn away. And what happens when we do? Allah says:
But whosoever turns away from My Message, verily for him is a life narrowed down, and We shall raise him up blind on the Day of Judgment. (20:124)
He will say, ‘My Lord, why have you raised me blind while I was [once] seeing?’ (20:125)
[Allah ] will say, ‘Thus did Our signs come to you, and you forgot them; and thus will you this Day be forgotten.’ (20:126)
Brothers and sisters, there is one way to never leave that closeness, that awe, that peace that we felt there. There is one way to protect ourselves from the fear and grief of leaving:
Those who believe, and whose hearts find satisfaction in the remembrance of Allah. for without doubt in the remembrance of Allah do hearts find satisfaction. (13:28)
There is a Paradise of the hereafter. We yearn to enter it. And perhaps the physical Paradise of this life is in front of the ka’bah.
But like Adam who had to leave Paradise for a while, we too had to leave the ka’bah. But Allah does not leave us. He has given us another Paradise of this life. Allah told Adam:
We said, “Go down from it, all of you. And when guidance comes to you from Me, whoever follows My guidance – on them shall be no fear, nor shall they grieve. (2:38)
The Paradise of this life is in the remembrance of Allah. It is in the obedience to His guidance. The one who holds tight to that guidance, has truly entered Paradise here.
Ibn ul Qayyim said:
“He who does not enter the Paradise of this life, does not enter the Paradise of the next.”