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Are You Single and Happy? (Let’s Find Out)

All The Single Ladies: An Exclusive ‘Love-Talk’ for Girls

Okay, here we go.
There are three types of single girls known to humankind:

  • Single and happy
  • Single and miserable
  • Single and miserable but trying (or sometimes pretending) to be happy

Single and Miserable

“You don’t need a man to be happy!”
“How can you possibly feel lonely? You have a loving family and lots of friends!”
“Stop obsessing about marriage! Focus on yourself and your career!”

There’s probably always a loved one or two who tend to say words along these lines, which proves the unspoken theory that most people, especially coupled up ones (even if they were our own best friends) can be completely clueless, and sometimes totally useless, when it comes to understanding certain ‘singleness’ emotions.

If you’re already miserable, their advice can make you feel worse, and those condescending words can awaken ugly feelings you didn’t know you had!

There’s nothing wrong or unnatural about wishing to find the ‘one’ and yearning to start a family. I mean, come on, Prophet Adam was in Paradise! Like real-life actual HEAVEN where everything is perfectly perfect; there’s no sadness, poverty or pain, and you can eat everything you want and not gain weight! Except he still wasn’t happy…

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He needed a companion. But did God give Prophet Adam a brother? A son? A soccer-buddy?

The first relationship ever created on this earth was a romantic one, between a man and woman. God gave him a wife; and she was his serenity and his home. You all know the verse right?

“And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquility in them; and He placed between you affection and mercy. Indeed in that are signs for a people who give thought (Holy Qur’an, 30:21)

It turns out it’s only by opposites that things are truly defined: hot/cold, black/white, heaven/hell, high/low, right/wrong.  You need a student to feel like a teacher. You must know sadness to appreciate a happy moment. Only a baby can make you feel like a mom and only a male can make you feel like a female. (Feminists, hold your horses! I’m only stating psychological facts here.)

We all need to have a companion to witness our lives; someone to love and make us feel loved and protected, someone to start a new family with. It’s how Allah created us, and it’s a beautiful basic need.

Yearning to get married and have a child (or five!) does not make a woman lame, brainless or desperate, it makes her just that: a woman!

Single girls can have parents, friends, and a career, yet still feel hollow inside. Loneliness is the hardest feeling to admit. It’s toxic and cruel, and with it comes fear, loss of identity and depression. So I guess it’s time for the ‘well-wishers’ who try to soothe single women by telling them to ‘live their lives’ to come up with a new game plan!

Are You Single and Happy? (Let’s Find Out) - About Islam

Is Marriage The Ultimate Resolution?

Wow look at all these raised hands! Yes, you in the back. Stand up please so everyone can see you.”

 “I’m a married woman and I’m still miserable and lonely! You make it sound like ‘marriage’ is a magic wand or something. What about those of us who would rather feel lonely than feel suffocated in a loveless marriage?”


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About Lilly S. Mohsen
Lilly S. Mohsen is the uprising author of “The Prophets To Islam” Series for children.Lilly studied Photographic Journalism at the American University in Cairo. She worked as a photographer, blogger and freelance author for a number of magazines and agencies around the world, until she finally decided to write her own books.After extensive studies and mastering in Psychology, she also started working as a part-time therapist and marriage counselor. Lilly currently lives in Egypt with her son and daughter, whom she proudly admits, are the main source of her inspiration.For more please check out her blog: