How to Determine If I Am Mature Enough for Marriage

28 May, 2020
Q Hello, and thanks for providing this service. I genuinely didn't have any idea who to ask about this, and I hope maybe you can help me.

I am from a Muslim country. I managed Alhamdulillah to not engage in any haram relationships. I am 27 years old now, and for most of my life, I have regarded marriage as something that is not for me. That is changing as I have been working in a western country for a year now and I believe Alhamdulillah that I am financially stable.

I am also starting to feel a void inside me. Looking at people who are in happy marriages, I think this is something only a single person would experience. In short, I need to find me a bride, and this is starting to look like the hardest endeavor I ever had to undertake. But before I start looking, I want to make sure that I am 100% ready to be married.

So, there it is; I am a single man with no past experience in relationships, and I want to emotionally and mentally get ready for marriage. How do I know that I am mature enough, that I have the right mindset, and that my communication skills are on point? If I am not, how can I prepare myself.

Thanks and Jazak Allahu Khairan.


Salam ‘Alaikum,

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About Megan Wyatt
Megan Wyatt is the founder of Wives of Jannah where she offers training programs, live workshops, and relationship coaching for wives and couples. She is a certified Strategic Intervention coach with specialized certifications for working with women and marital relationships and has been coaching and mentoring Muslims globally since 2008. She shares her passion for Islamic personal development in her Passionate Imperfectionist community. She is a wife and homeschooling mother with four children residing in Southern California.