As-salamu `alaikum dear Sister,
Thank you for writing us with your question. Religious and cultural differences aside, based on what you have shared regarding this man’s actions (alone), I would say that it sounds as if it would be best to leave him alone.
Of course, I am only providing my opinion based on what you have told me, but from what he has done with this other woman, coupled with him expressing that he wants to be friends, it doesn’t sound like putting your hopes in him for a future marriage is realistic at this time.
I hope that my honesty is not hurtful to you, but I always believe that in relationships it is best to be up front about matters so as to not cause greater harm later on.
Furthermore, I cannot speak to this man’s actions in light of any cultural differences as I don’t know what culture this man belongs to. It is quite common, however, in “male culture for men” to say one thing and do another while the woman ends up waiting for something to happen that never does.
My point is that I just don’t want you to get your hopes up and wait around for this man when all the signs seem to indicate that he does not have a clear intention to ask you to marry him. I hope that makes sense, and please realize that this is one man’s opinion on the matter so don’t take it as God’s truth.
Feel free to follow up if you have additional comments or questions.
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