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My Mother Curses Me Every Day; What to Do?

29 April, 2023
Q Salam sister. My problem is that my parents always curse me every talking... If I do anything wrong or talk anything to them, she starts cursing at little things... She said may you die now... Unlucky girl... Why are you alive... May you never succeed in any world ... I am too religious I try my best to respect our parents because they are both my paradise ... I love my mother soo much, I care soo much but I daily listen to these curses... I have no choice... I cried every night because of this curse they slept peacefully ... Even I can't write it because of too much crying ... What should I do if Allah listen these bad duas?? Any solution please tell me!

Answer

Your mother’s curse may be self-talk; it may be that she heard it as a child too, and this is how she thinks and feels about herself.

She might have her own trauma, so what you can also do is ignore these curses, as they are projections of others mental health states.

Whatever the reason, they should not use verbal abuse to hurt you, either intentionally or not.

Try to find a calm moment, talk to her, and let her know how these words make you feel. Ask what she thinks about what she says.

Know that Allah loves you, and you are worthy of love and life.

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About Aisha Mohammad
Aisha has a PhD in psychology, an MS in public health and a PsyD. Aisha worked as a Counselor/Psychologist for 12 years at Geneva B. Scruggs Community Health Care Center in New York. She has worked with clients with mental health issues such as anxiety, depression, panic disorder, trauma, and OCD. She also facilitated support groups and provided specialized services for victims of domestic violence, HIV positive individuals, as well youth/teen issues. Aisha is certified in Mindfulness, Trauma Informed Care, Behavioral Management, Restorative Justice/ Healing Circles, Conflict Resolution, Mediation, and Confidentiality & Security. Aisha is also a Certified Life Coach, and Relationship Workshop facilitator. Aisha has a part-time Life Coaching practice in which she integrates the educational concepts of stress reduction, mindfulness, introspection, empowerment, self love and acceptance and spirituality to create a holistic healing journey for clients. Aisha is also a part of several organizations that advocates for prisoner rights/reentry, social & food justice, as well as advocating for an end to oppression & racism. In her spare time, Aisha enjoys her family, photography, nature, martial arts classes, Islamic studies, volunteering/charity work, as well as working on her book and spoken word projects.