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My Fiance Ignores My Calls; What Shall I Do?

22 April, 2020
Q I have many misunderstandings with my fiancé. It would be time to fix our marriage date, yet I fear of this marriage.

Evil eye on him causes troubles and I have no idea how to fix these problems.

Now things are getting better currently. But he talked to his parents, but his father has not responded to him about our marriage. He is now ignoring my calls.

Answer

In this counseling answer:

•I would kindly suggest that you give him a little more time. If there is no response soon, insha’Allah ask your family to contact his family.

•I would kindly suggest dear sister that you try not to worry too much.

•Make duaa to Allah for His blessings and ease concerning your upcoming marriage.


As Salamu Alaykum sister,

Thank you for writing to us. I am happy to hear that things are going better for you and your fiancée. As I understand your question, you had concerns that there was evil eye on him, but now you feel it is resolved and you are back on terms of planning for your wedding.

Delayed Responses

I am happy to hear your family is supportive in your marriage. Your fiancée is now in the process of waiting for his father’s response.

Sister, often it can take time to get a parents’ response regarding marriage, although this is not recommended in Islam. 

One is not to prolong a marriage. I am not clear on how long you and your fiancée have been waiting for his dad’s response. Perhaps his dad is busy, maybe he’s thinking about it, or there may be other reasons as to why he has not responded.

Has his mom responded, sister? Delayed responses can be very unsettling because you don’t know what is going on. Imaginations can make us think all sorts of things and cause unnecessary worry.

My Fiance Ignores My Calls; What Shall I Do? - About Islam

It is best insha’Allah to try not to “overthink” the situation, sister. I know that can be hard as it is such an important life event, but if you try to relax and keep your mind on other things you will feel better.

Ignoring Calls

It could be that your fiancée is embarrassed as his dad is taking so long and he just does not know what to say. While it is rude to ignore your calls maybe he just really doesn’t know what to say yet.


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Conclusion

I would kindly suggest that you give him a little more time. If there is no response soon, insha’Allah ask your family to contact his family.

I would kindly suggest dear sister that you try not to worry too much. I know this is an exciting and stressful time for you and waiting is hard. However, insha’Allah all will work out soon.

Make duaa to Allah for His blessings and ease concerning your upcoming marriage.

We wish you the best.

Salam.

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About Aisha Mohammad
Aisha has a PhD in psychology, an MS in public health and a PsyD. Aisha worked as a Counselor/Psychologist for 12 years at Geneva B. Scruggs Community Health Care Center in New York. She has worked with clients with mental health issues such as anxiety, depression, panic disorder, trauma, and OCD. She also facilitated support groups and provided specialized services for victims of domestic violence, HIV positive individuals, as well youth/teen issues. Aisha is certified in Mindfulness, Trauma Informed Care, Behavioral Management, Restorative Justice/ Healing Circles, Conflict Resolution, Mediation, and Confidentiality & Security. Aisha is also a Certified Life Coach, and Relationship Workshop facilitator. Aisha has a part-time Life Coaching practice in which she integrates the educational concepts of stress reduction, mindfulness, introspection, empowerment, self love and acceptance and spirituality to create a holistic healing journey for clients. Aisha is also a part of several organizations that advocates for prisoner rights/reentry, social & food justice, as well as advocating for an end to oppression & racism. In her spare time, Aisha enjoys her family, photography, nature, martial arts classes, Islamic studies, volunteering/charity work, as well as working on her book and spoken word projects.