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As-Salaam ‘Alaikum,
You are lucky to have such a close friend who you care so much about.
Sometimes, we hurt people unintentionally. It can be hard to understand what we have done wrong until we see it from the other person’s point of view.
I am sure you did not mean to hurt her, but it is important to understand what upset her and how you can make things better.
Open communication is very important. Nothing can be solved unless you talk about it together. If she is upset and doesn’t want to talk to you right now, then you should give her some time to think and cool off. She might be angry and will not be ready to listen to whatever you have to say, so you should wait till she is. But do not leave it for too long.
I am sure she will tell you what hurt her and forgive you for what you have said or done if you show her that you are really sorry and didn’t mean to hurt her.
Being honest, respectful and nice to each other is essential in any relationship. You should take care of people who are close to you. I know it is hard for you to go through this because she is upset, but things will get better.
When you care about someone you get more hurt when they say or do something because you are so attached to them. From her reaction, it seems that your friend cares about you. She is hurt because she did not expect it from you.
Allow your friend to express her anger. It will release her feelings and thoughts and will make it easier for you both to be friends again. Let her know how bad you feel about the whole thing and that you value your friendship a lot. Admit what you did wrong and show her how sorry you are. If what you did was pretty big, then you should maybe try to go the extra mile to apologize.
As a Muslim, we should be really careful not to hurt someone. The Prophet (saw) said:
“The Muslim is the one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe”. (An-Nasa’i)
The fundamental characteristics of Islam and a true Muslim are to not hurt other people but instead protect them from any harm and evil. If you have hurt your friend deeply then you should show her how sorry you are and never do that again.
Listen to what she has to say and remain quiet till she has finished talking. Remember, it is about her, not you. You have to pay attention to how she feels.
Support her by saying, for example, “I understand how you feel, and I am sorry”. Give her a hug and do something special for her such as baking for her or buying her a present to lighten up her mood.
Sometimes actions speak louder than words. Be open and sincere with her. In sha’ Allah, she will forgive you soon.
May Allah (swt) ease your tension and make it better between you and your friend.
Amen,
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