Q I am facing a very difficult situation. I was diagnosed with a chronic condition called Fibromyalgia and depression 10 years ago. The trigger was a trauma that was my sibling’s death.

I and my wife have been married for around 12 years now. We have two kids. Managing a demanding job plus a very demanding wife and kids sometimes is too much for me, and I get sick.

The specialists have told me that in order to be stable, I need to exercise, take a healthy diet that suits me and try to remain stress-free. My wife does not take care of my diet because she says she doesn't have time to make separate meals for me. All the free time I have I invest it in my wife and kids.

She doesn't like me visiting any friends or even when they visit me. Any time I am sick or lose my job due to sickness, she fights with me and blames me for getting married to her without telling her that I was sick which is a false accusation as I was fine when we got married. When I am sick I am on my own.

I got to the doctor myself, I make food for myself, and I take my medication myself. When I am sick, she treats me like crap. She wants more from life and blames me for everything that affects her and her standard of living when I am sick.

I pray 5 times a day and help with the kids and her household chores. She always considers me lesser to her as she is healthy and I am sick. Please help me to find a solution. She is not ready to go to any counselor with me because she thinks she is right.