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I am Pregnant, but My Husband Hits Me

22 January, 2020
Q My husband and I loved each other before marriage and during our engagement period. We were so open to each other and got to know each other well.

I knew he dated few girls in the past, while he was the first person I talked to. He even told me he drinks and had a short temper before marriage.

However, he said once he marries me, things would change. We got married Alhamdulillah. I quit my job and went to live with him while looking for another job.

He doesn’t have family living with him. They’re back in his country. I have my parents here.

On our first night, I had a really difficult time having intercourse with him because I was a virgin. He hit me and made me have sex with him regardless. Then he asked sorry and told me we had to do it and it’ll feel better by time.

It did feel better at the end of our honeymoon. I got pregnant in a month. He and I would argue for small stuff and sometimes regardless that I’m pregnant he hits me.

Then he cried and apologized and made up with me. One day on his phone, I found out while we were engaged that he used to talk to another girl and had a relationship with her at the same time. But they both broke up few months before our marriage.

I dig more on his phone to find out he also had sex with a prostitute while we were engaged. It looked like it also stopped a few months before our marriage date.

Until today, he says he was so transparent with me and didn’t hide anything. Only I know that he did hide the fact that he cheated on me several times before marriage.

I don’t think he cheats on me now despite that he still emotionally and physically has abused me.

I’m due in 3 months and not sure what I should do. It’s hard to trust him again. He still does not know that I know he cheated me.

I’m constantly crying and arguing with him for tiny thing because I’m really hurt. I still love him though and that’s the problem.

Answer

Salam Alaikum,

In this counseling video, you will learn:

• You must stand up for yourself! You cannot let him harm you!

• Protect yourself AND your child – if you are not emotionally well, the baby will suffer!

• Abuse gets worse over time. He has already established this pattern. He will not change if he knows he can get away with it. He needs professional help.

• Call the authority when you find your husband abusing you.

Abusers often apologize. However, he will not change if you give him new chances.

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• Let your family know what is going on.

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About Megan Wyatt
Megan Wyatt is the founder of Wives of Jannah where she offers training programs, live workshops, and relationship coaching for wives and couples. She is a certified Strategic Intervention coach with specialized certifications for working with women and marital relationships and has been coaching and mentoring Muslims globally since 2008. She shares her passion for Islamic personal development in her Passionate Imperfectionist community. She is a wife and homeschooling mother with four children residing in Southern California.