Our house is on an interest only mortgage and he wants to renew the loan. I would prefer to downsize and not have a mortgage.
I do not approve of this behavior, but when pressed he denies he is doing anything wrong and flies into a rage. I am frustrated with the lack of financial security and infidelity. I am considering separating from him and making my own way as I am still able to work. What would you advise?
In this counseling answer:
Involve someone else in this conflict. The best would be a person your husband respects.
Someone needs to stop him doing such a haram act.
You have the full right to do whatever you want; it depends on what you want to tolerate and not.
The most important is your relationship with Allah.
You may want to contact this woman and inform her and tell her about the situation.
Stand by whatever you have decided. Don’t say you are leaving, then you change your mind.