Husband Doesn’t Support My Career Goals

27 August, 2020
Q I devoted my whole life to my studies. I became a medical graduate with dreams of becoming a consultant. I then got married to a Canadian guy.

After nikkah I realized that my husband is not very supportive and he doesn't want to compromise for my career. Besides that, it's very difficult to get into residency at Canada and near impossible with this little support.

It's been more than a year. I'm struggling with my career. I have lost my inner peace. And the regrets that I should have resisted for this proposal in front of my family don't leave me.

I knew about a difficult career in Canada for doctors but I agreed on my father's continued counseling. I'm afraid I will harm my marriage.

I'm afraid how will I live a life like a failure. I keep comparing myself with my classmates who have started their residencies and keep getting depressed.

I am unable to accept that it's my qadar. All I keep thinking is that I chose this difficult life on my own. I started antidepressants once but left because I was unable to study with medicines. Kindly help me.


As-Salamu Aleikom,

In this video, you will learn about:

– How to make your husband understand your feelings

– How to find a balanced way between your wish and his

– How to overcome your feelings of depression



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About Aisha Mohammad
Aisha received her PhD in psychology in 2000 and an MS in public health in 2009. Aisha worked as a Counselor/Psychologist for 12 years for Geneva B. Scruggs Community Health Care Center in New York. Aisha specializes in trauma, depression, anxiety, substance abuse, marriage/relationships issues, as well as community-cultural dynamics. She is certified in Restorative Justice/ Healing Circles, Conflict Resolution, Mediation, and is also a certified Life Coach.
Aisha works at a Family Resource Center, and has a part-time practice in which she integrates healing and spirituality using a holistic approach. Aisha plans to open a holistic care counseling center for Muslims and others in the New York area in the future, in sha' Allah. Aisha is also a part of several organizations that advocate for social & food justice. In her spare time she enjoys her family, martial arts classes, Islamic studies as well as working on her book and spoken word projects.