In this counseling answer:
“I would suggest dear sister that you ask your husband to intervene. It is his responsibility to restore calm and kind relationships within the family.”
As-Salamu ‘Alaykum dear sister,
I am sorry to hear of the situation you are in. May Allah (swt) bless you for your most caring, loving and generous treatment of your in-laws and your husband’s siblings.
It is sad that your mother-in-law has stopped talking to you and your children. Has she ever said why? It sounds as if she is going through something and is taking it out on you, sadly. I would suggest dear sister that you ask your husband to intervene. It is his responsibility to restore calm and kind relationships within the family. He needs to find out why his mother is acting like this. Perhaps in sha’ Allah, you can sit down with your husband and go through a timeline of when this behavior started and what may have triggered it. It sounds as if prior to this there was harmony and love amongst everyone in the home.
I encourage you to speak with your husband and tell him how much you love his family, especially his mom. Tell him that you are sad and confused as to why she does not talk to you. Ask him if he could please find out why. After identifying the “why”, you can then together work on a solution in sha’ Allah. If he refuses, I would suggest sister that you seek counseling in your area to help you through this and provide supports for any future changes you may choose to make.
You sound like a wonderful sister, wife, and daughter in-law. Please hold on to your wonderful self, and don’t let other people’s issues make you feel as if you are a bad person. Often, we can unknowingly absorb others’ negativity, making it our own when it is not ours. Hang on to your values, your compassion and your love for others; it is, indeed, a gift from Allah.
Please let us know how you are doing.
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