Ads by Muslim Ad Network

aaa

Husband Is Committing Zina; What to Do?

07 June, 2024
Q My husband is having relation with a woman, who he use to like before we got married. After 18 years of our marriage, he managed to pay some spy’s good amount of money to find her. Now she is married with three teenage children. When my husband approached her, she was more than welcome to restart their relationship. My husband initially told me they are just good friends but when I read their chat, I found out they exchanged “I love you” and talks intimately to each other. I confronted my husband and asked him to stop as this is adultery, he said according to him it’s not as we are truly in love and Allah reunited us after 22 years, so it’s Allah’s will. My husband says he is not happy of me because I answer him back, I do that because he gets very angry and be violent for petty issues. I stopped him from adultery because I don’t want him to get punished by Allah swt, but he is refusing. What shall I do?

Answer

Aisha Mohammad
07 June, 2024

If your husband refuses your advice to stop committing zina, in the end, the deed belongs to him. After all, we will all stand up in front of Allah and answer for our deeds alone.

If he commits adultery, it is about his understanding of wrongdoing. He has to develop love and fear of Allah in his heart, repent, and end his affair.

What about you and your feelings?

If you love him and care for him, what he is doing probably hurts you. You have to think about yourself and your well-being and not let violence happen .

You do not deserve to be hit, abused, or cheated.

Ads by Muslim Ad Network

What to do in a situation like this?

Click on the video to learn more.

More from Aisha Mohammad:

***

Disclaimer: The conceptualization and recommendations stated in this response are very general and purely based on the limited information that was provided in the question. In no event shall AboutIslam, it’s volunteers, writers, scholars, counselors, or employees be held liable for any direct, indirect, exemplary, punitive, consequential or other damages whatsoever that may arise through your decision or action in the use of the services which our website provides.

ask the counselor zina Adultery husband's cheating
About Aisha Mohammad
Aisha has a PhD in psychology, an MS in public health and a PsyD. Aisha worked as a Counselor/Psychologist for 12 years at Geneva B. Scruggs Community Health Care Center in New York. She has worked with clients with mental health issues such as anxiety, depression, panic disorder, trauma, and OCD. She also facilitated support groups and provided specialized services for victims of domestic violence, HIV positive individuals, as well youth/teen issues. Aisha is certified in Mindfulness, Trauma Informed Care, Behavioral Management, Restorative Justice/ Healing Circles, Conflict Resolution, Mediation, and Confidentiality & Security. Aisha is also a Certified Life Coach, and Relationship Workshop facilitator. Aisha has a part-time Life Coaching practice in which she integrates the educational concepts of stress reduction, mindfulness, introspection, empowerment, self love and acceptance and spirituality to create a holistic healing journey for clients. Aisha is also a part of several organizations that advocates for prisoner rights/reentry, social & food justice, as well as advocating for an end to oppression & racism. In her spare time, Aisha enjoys her family, photography, nature, martial arts classes, Islamic studies, volunteering/charity work, as well as working on her book and spoken word projects.