You sum it up nicely when you say, “I think the general belief here is that so long as the man is providing financially he’s doing his job as far as his kids go.” It’s unfortunate, but your son is reflecting his father’s apathy and absence of true passion in and for life.
Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) said that children are the secrets of their parents. Men in the modern world of Islam are so divorced from their own true spirits that they focus solely on the outward and cannot find or live by their own real truth. Such is the depth of the hopelessness they feel and the distance they feel from the fire of their true love of God.
But there is hope. Often a word to the wise is sufficient. Again, the absence of the teachings of the inner life is so dominant, I mean they have been so eradicated, that they are hard to find anywhere. Will the real men of Allah please stand up and become the inspirations they’re meant to be, at least for their own children’s sakes? You are the mother and let him be the father.
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