I Couldn’t Marry Her! Can She Be My Wife in Jannah?

24 September, 2020
Q As Allah (SWT) has mentioned in Surah Furqan that Allah will give us whatever we will ask him and He says that it's a promise. Now in Jannah if I would ask Allah to marry me with the woman I loved but couldn't marry in this world, then I would be granted that according to this verse. Am I right? Please guide.

Answer

Short Answer: 

  • Allah has promised us that he will give us everything in Jannah.
  • Our job is to try to make it to Jannah, through our various acts of worship.
  • At times one can become overwhelmed by emotions, and it can cloud one’s judgment. Know for sure whatever Allah has given you is for your own best.

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Walaikumassalam. Thank you for your question.

Making a Choice

Many times we as humans have to make many decisions. Especially, when it comes to important things such as, who we will spend the rest of our lives with- our better half. Sometimes we get a bit over-emotional when it comes to marriage.

Marriage is a very essential agreement. Though it is very similar to other contracts we make in our lives, it is very distinct in its nature. With marriage comes great responsibilities on both ends. As marriage is half your religion. Anas ibn Malik reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace, and blessings be upon him, said,

“Whoever Allah provides with a righteous wife, Allah has assisted him in half of his religion. Let him fear Allah regarding the second half.”

(Source: al-Mu’jam al-Awsaṭ 992)

Why Did This Happen To Me?

One of the perfections of Islam is that it has set rules and regulations for all kinds of dealings we have in our life. Just like the religion guides us on how to buy a house, it also lays the guidelines for our most important decision of matrimony. If a person were to follow the instructions laid by Allah, he would never end up depressed or empty-handed.

Having said this, one should also keep in mind that Allah has the best plan for us. Allah tests us through various methods, however, his reward is greater than his tests. Also, Allah has the knowledge of the unseen, which we as humans cannot understand. Many times an incident takes place in one’s life and at the time the person is devastated, however some years down the road he understands and appreciates the wisdom of Allah.

Imagine the time when Prophet Ibrahim was commanded to sacrifice his own beloved son, sounds barbaric? Did Prophet Ibrahim question Allah for reasons? No! He did as he was told, did he know that his son will be replaced by a ram? Of course not, but look at what he gained from that act, he gained the title of KhaleelUllah, which means friend of God!

When Allah blesses us with something we should be grateful, and if He chooses to take something from us, we should be patient. Prophet Muhammad has said,

what has reached you was never meant to miss you, and what has missed you was never meant to reach you.”

Allah Knows Best

We humans are very nearsighted, and we have within us many weaknesses. Despite all that, we have to keep training ourselves, our nafs, to do what is right. We must submit our will to the will of Allah, because He is our Creator. It’s simple, see when you buy the latest BMW and something goes wrong with it, where do you take it to get fixed? You take it to the exact location you had got it from, right. Why? Because they are the owners who know the ins and outs of the machine. You may have tried to fix some tidbits, but you had to take it to the owners who have full knowledge of their invention. Think about it, who created us?

As Allah is our Creator then He has full knowledge of our needs and wants. He knows what will please us and what will be sufficient for us. Yes, Allah has promised us that he will give us everything in Jannah. Our job is to try to make it to Jannah, through our various acts of worship. At times one can become overwhelmed by emotions, and it can cloud one’s judgment. Know for sure whatever Allah has given you is for your own best.

In Quran 2:216, Allah says,

“But perhaps you hate a thing and it is good for you; and perhaps you love a thing and it is bad for you. And Allah Knows, while you know not.”

And Allah knows best.

I hope this helps.

Salam and please keep in touch.

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