Asiyah and Ahmed were excited to enter marriage. They both expected a fairytale romance straight out of the movies with an intimate life that imitated pornographic material.  Neither of them was ready for the reality that marriage requires work and compromise, disagreements will happen, and things don’t always work out as you expected.   The …

Short Answer: Looking at our spouses should make us feel settled, home, comforted, and fulfilled. This is for one’s own spiritual/physical/emotional fulfillment. Keep on reading to check out the best questions to ask your potential spouse. …………. Asalamu Alaikum, Thank you so much for asking this very important question. Here are a few points to remember …

There is a right way and a wrong way to get to know someone for marriage. The wrong way is to get caught up in the excitement of a budding relationship and completely forget to ask the critical questions that help determine compatibility. One of the biggest mistakes that many young Muslims make is rushing …

Short Answer: No, not always. Compatibility and chemistry are also extremely important. A key thing is to remember that not everyone has the same (or even a correct) view of what “religiosity” and “good character” means. “We prioritize religion and good character with a sound understanding of what it means to be religious, and with a sound …

Answer: As-Salamu `Alaykum wa Rahamatullahi wa Barakatuh my dear sister, Thank you for sharing your story which is a sad one, indeed. As Muslims, we have much to learn about our rights within Islam—the kind of rights which are not about taking, but about giving and receiving. “It is not lawful for you to try to …

Answer: As-Salaam ’Alaikum brother, May Allah (swt) give you wisdom and protect your tender heart! Let me address your notion of love and “finding the one.” As you said, love is not about being infatuated or having a crush on a girl. These feelings evaporate easily and are based on your own fantasy. The reason …

Answer: As-Salaam ‘Aleikom sister, Thank you for writing to us. I will try my best to advise you, in sha’ Allah. First of all, you are very young and should not worry too much about finding the right match. Every girl has a dream to marry a perfect man. I understand that you may look …

Salam dear questioner, Thank you for your interesting question. Family is the cornerstone of the society. Islam has laid down certain regulations to have a sound family. Marriage is the only way to establish a family in Islam. Marriage in Islam is a sacred bond. Islam has forbidden all man-woman relationships outside marriage. Islam blocked …

Answer: As-Salaam ’Alaykum sister, It sounds you need more time to get to know this brother and to figure out what exactly you are looking for in a man. You said you “found him decent and religious enough” and that you did not feel any special pull or excitement for him. On top of that, …