Itahr, or selflessness, is one of the noble qualities emphasized in Islam. One who is selfless places concern for others above concern for himself.
The selfless person is generous with his time and freely lends aid and support to others.
The opposite of selflessness is selfishness, which involves being concerned with one’s own well-being without regard for the well-being of others.
One who is selfish is stingy—with both his wealth and his self—and views lending support to others as a burden.
The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) reminded the believers of the noble quality of selflessness when he said:
“None of you truly believes until he loves for his brother, what he loves for himself” (Bukhari and Muslim)
The noble companions, keen to heed the advice of the Messenger, exemplified selflessness. There are numerous examples of their tendency to place others above themselves. Two brief examples are highlighted here:
1. The Makkan immigrants and the Madinah’s Helpers
One of the best examples of selflessness is reflected by the Ansar’s (Helpers) treatment of the Muhajirun (migrants).
After the Hijrah to Al-Madinah, many of the migrants had nothing. They had left all of their wealth in Makkah, and come to Al-Madinah destitute.
To alleviate the suffering of the migrants, the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) paired each immigrant with a family in Madinah.
The bond between the migrants and the Ansar was so tight that—for a time—they were even allowed to inherit from one another.
The Ansar felt such an obligation toward the migrants that they once went to the Prophet (PBUH) and offered to give them half of their date groves.
When the Prophet (PBUH) refused to accept this offer, the Ansar offered a cooperative work agreement that allowed the migrants to work in the date grove and share in the profits.
2.When a guest is preferred to one’s own kids
In another example, a man once came to the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) seeking food.
The Prophet requested assistance from one of his wives, who replied that she had nothing but water. Then he sent the same message to another wife and received the same reply.
Then the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said, “Who will entertain this man as a guest tonight?”
One of the Ansar said, “O messenger of Allah, I will.”
So the Ansari asked his wife to prepare food for the man, but she replied that they only had enough food to feed the children.
Intent on receiving the reward from Allah, the man told his wife to keep the children busy and put them to bed when they ask for food.
When the guest entered, the hosts extinguished the light and gave the impression they that were eating. But in reality, they passed the night hungry so that their guest could eat.
The next morning the Prophet saw the Ansari man and informed him that Allah was pleased with his act of selflessness. (Bukhari and Muslim)
The Quran Praises Al-Ansar
In regard to such acts of kindness, Allah said the following about the Ansar:
{And those who, before them, had homes and had adopted the Faith, love those who emigrate to them, and have no jealousy in their breasts for that which they have been given and give them preference over themselves, even though they were in need of that. And whosoever is saved from his own covetousness, such are they who will be the successful.} (Al-Hashr 59:9)
And Allah also says,
{And they give food, inspite of their love for it (or for the love of Him), to poor, the orphan, and the captive, (Saying) “We feed you seeking Allah’s Countenance only. We wish for no reward, nor thanks from you.} (Al-Insan 76:8-9)
Reading these wonderful stories should cause each of us to ask a simple question:
How selfless am I? How willing am I to come to the aid of others? Am I willing to sacrifice my material wealth and forsake comfort for the sake of others?
On a scale of 1 to 10—with 10 being perfectly selfless and 1 being totally selfish—where would I rank?
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