You need to praise your wife again and again. Like we got to the food moments ago and you need to say:
“This food is really great!” even if the salt is a little bit more. Because sometimes she spends so much time bringing it in front of us and we are worried about how it is smelling and tasting:
She just looks at you and her face flops:
“I’ve been at it for 3 hours… I’ve been busy with this for so many months…”
And what is she going to say:
“Next time I’ll try a little bit better.”
That is if she is a good woman… or will say:
“Never going to cook this again!”
And if you have someone who is very witty:
“The next time if there is salt to be put in, I’ll call you to put it.”
So we need to praise the cooking of our wives, praise their dress code especially. For example, I can let you know something that has worked for some people.
When you find some women who don’t like to dress appropriately so there are 3 ways husband to tell them: “This is bad! I don’t want you to wear this.”
You might have a response. But if you want a response from the heart, you tell them:
“The other dress looks much better than this.”
So you are praising one thing and that praise is not there when the other thing is there.
So you have told them in a way that “this is what I really love” and go beyond the limits in praise! That’s your wife, you can say whatever you want in terms of goodness.
Like the food, when you eat, even if you don’t like it, just praise it! See what it is, praise the effort at least. Let me tell you what happens once: The Imam in masjid said:
“You need to praise the cooking of your wife.”
So the man went home and had his meal, he was looking at it and looking at his wife smiling, happy, excited Mashallah! And when he finished he said:
“Oh! It was awesome!”
And the wife said:
“What? I’ve been cooking for you twenty one years you never said that, today when the food came from the neighbor you want to say it was awesome?”
So he said: “I am sorry about that, I didn’t know.”