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Mother Is Depressed, But Refuses Therapy

25 April, 2023
Q My mother is 66 years old healthy woman but she had lots of traumas since she lost my father in a car accident and raised me up in a very hard circumstances and she is so pessimistic or severe depressed. But in a very Islamic way like she thinks this is imaan and she keep saying she might die soon, all time, even in front of her grandchildren.

She doesn't believe she have anything wrong; she doesn't want to go to doctor or talking therapy. I am so panicking myself cause sometimes she is so rational so everyone believes her but this is affecting my kids too and I don't know what should I do?

Answer

When we are facing difficulties, we have to put our ultimate faith in Allah and trust that he will bring ease and guide us towards the better.

At the same time, “we tie our camel“: we need to take the necessary steps to ensure solutions.

In this case, your mother has strong faith, but she needs to take those steps in order to heal from the trauma of the tragic loss of her husband.

If she is severely depressed but refuses therapy, she might harm her loved ones too.

Offer your company and go together to counseling while reassuring her about her strength in faith.

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About Aisha Mohammad
Aisha has a PhD in psychology, an MS in public health and a PsyD. Aisha worked as a Counselor/Psychologist for 12 years at Geneva B. Scruggs Community Health Care Center in New York. She has worked with clients with mental health issues such as anxiety, depression, panic disorder, trauma, and OCD. She also facilitated support groups and provided specialized services for victims of domestic violence, HIV positive individuals, as well youth/teen issues. Aisha is certified in Mindfulness, Trauma Informed Care, Behavioral Management, Restorative Justice/ Healing Circles, Conflict Resolution, Mediation, and Confidentiality & Security. Aisha is also a Certified Life Coach, and Relationship Workshop facilitator. Aisha has a part-time Life Coaching practice in which she integrates the educational concepts of stress reduction, mindfulness, introspection, empowerment, self love and acceptance and spirituality to create a holistic healing journey for clients. Aisha is also a part of several organizations that advocates for prisoner rights/reentry, social & food justice, as well as advocating for an end to oppression & racism. In her spare time, Aisha enjoys her family, photography, nature, martial arts classes, Islamic studies, volunteering/charity work, as well as working on her book and spoken word projects.