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Parents Are Delaying My Marriage; What To Do?

28 March, 2023
Q How can I feel more patient with being single? I've tried fasting, keeping myself busy etc. But right now, the only ones preventing me are my parents... they had a bad marriage & are paranoid the same might happen to me. We should all rely on Allah...

At this point, I've spent all my youth studying. But now I want to marry, but despite having everything needed for me to get married, my parents are against the idea of marriage. I've also studied the Quran and hadith to the best of my ability & am confident about myself, my abilities & my religion. I am favored to have the life I'm living & I have no complaints about my lifestyle or standard of living. But my desire to get married gets stronger day by day.

I'm not sure how to deal with being single forever, and I feel like I'm getting suffocated by my desire to get married. I tried my level best to bring up the topic of marriage to my parents & many of my close relatives know about it. I feel very sick and exhausted from all the pressure of studies and living in a foreign country for the first time. My life hasn't always been easy. I've overcome many hardships in life. I believe Allah always has the best plan for the believers. But is there anything I can do to feel more patient during this difficult moment in life? I wake up every day trying to get ahead with all my responsibilities & I feel that I'm the right age to get married. I feel mentally, physically, and emotionally mature and ready enough for marriage. Is there any advice you could give me that would be helpful for me?

Answer

It is a good start that you are aware of your need for marriage.

Parents should put aside their fears and own feelings and focus on how to support you.

They should help you find the right spouse and prevent you from falling into the same mistakes they committed.

If that does not happen and they keep disregarding your needs and feelings, look around and seek other support groups for single Muslimahs.

Trust in Allah and in your judgement that you will find the one you are compatible with and can live your life with.

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About Aisha Mohammad
Aisha has a PhD in psychology, an MS in public health and a PsyD. Aisha worked as a Counselor/Psychologist for 12 years at Geneva B. Scruggs Community Health Care Center in New York. She has worked with clients with mental health issues such as anxiety, depression, panic disorder, trauma, and OCD. She also facilitated support groups and provided specialized services for victims of domestic violence, HIV positive individuals, as well youth/teen issues. Aisha is certified in Mindfulness, Trauma Informed Care, Behavioral Management, Restorative Justice/ Healing Circles, Conflict Resolution, Mediation, and Confidentiality & Security. Aisha is also a Certified Life Coach, and Relationship Workshop facilitator. Aisha has a part-time Life Coaching practice in which she integrates the educational concepts of stress reduction, mindfulness, introspection, empowerment, self love and acceptance and spirituality to create a holistic healing journey for clients. Aisha is also a part of several organizations that advocates for prisoner rights/reentry, social & food justice, as well as advocating for an end to oppression & racism. In her spare time, Aisha enjoys her family, photography, nature, martial arts classes, Islamic studies, volunteering/charity work, as well as working on her book and spoken word projects.