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I Hate My Subjects At School

19 November, 2021
Q My parents forced me to take subjects I don't like and I am not interested in. Then I somehow started studying and my board exams are next month. However, I am still not able to accept that I am not studying subjects I like. Until today I wish that I could study things that I enjoy.

Even now if I get the opportunity and money to change my school and subjects, I would love to. What should I do? How do I accept the subject I am studying and not wish and think about subjects I cannot study?

Answer

In this counseling answer:

Sister, I’m confident that you can apply yourself in a disciplined way to studying these courses and getting good grades.

It is really not worth looking for opportunities for money and changing schools.

I am confident that you have the determination, desire, and drive to get through this short semester with excellent grades, proving to your parents that you can make responsible and good choices.


As salamu alaykum sister,

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My dear sister, you are in an interesting situation. As you are 16, you are probably still in high school. As you are living with your parents and still underage, there may not be much you can do about the school subjects that they want you to study. With that said, you may have to accept these courses and make the best of them.

Making the Best of Undesirable Courses

True, indeed, you may not like these courses. The subjects may be boring to you. There may be other courses that you are more interested in; that is understandable.

However, thinking about what you would like to do is taking up more time than you should be giving it. I say this because there is nothing you can do at this point regarding the courses you want to take. What you can do is study as hard as you can in your current subjects and get the highest grades possible.

It is easy to get good grades in something we enjoy-it is easy to complete work we love! But the real test comes in when we do not want to do something-or we dislike doing or learn something.

By succeeding, not only will that show that you have the willpower and stamina to overcome things you do not like, but it will also show your parents that you are dedicated to whatever you put your mind to. This may soften their stance and change their minds in the future concerning courses you want to take.

On the other hand, if you blow off these subjects and don’t do well in them, they may be less likely to trust your opinion and choice in regards to future courses and subjects.

Looking towards the Future

Sister, once you have completed these courses that you do not like and you have received excellent grades, perhaps you will be in a better position to advocate for the subjects that you do want to take next semester.

With that said, put away these thoughts of other classes until these current ones are done. Prep your mind to pass these courses with excellence.

After you have taken your exams and the courses are closed, you may wish to choose the courses that you truly want to take that interest you and present them to your parents with the fact that you did very well on your previous exams even though you did not like the courses.

Show them the outline for these classes that you want to take and explain why you would like to take them and how they will benefit your future and your career.

Changing Schools and Subjects

Sister, I cannot advise you to focus on getting money to change schools and subjects. That would create a lot of stress for you.

In addition to worrying about keeping up an income to pay for school, you would have to listen to your parents’ disagreements with what you have chosen to do.

Again, the best thing is to bust through these courses with high grades and present your choice of courses for next semester with pride.

Conclusion

Sister, I’m confident that you can apply yourself in a disciplined way to studying these courses and getting good grades. It is only for a short while and it will be over.

It is really not worth looking for opportunities for money and changing schools. It will only cause undue stress on you and upset your parents which would then further stress you out.

I am confident that you have the determination, desire, and drive to get through this short semester with excellent grades, proving to your parents that you can make responsible and good choices.

This will enable you to move forward with a solid case for why you should take the classes that you were truly interested in next semester. I’m confident you can get through this. 

We wish you the best.

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About Aisha Mohammad
Aisha has a PhD in psychology, an MS in public health and a PsyD. Aisha worked as a Counselor/Psychologist for 12 years at Geneva B. Scruggs Community Health Care Center in New York. She has worked with clients with mental health issues such as anxiety, depression, panic disorder, trauma, and OCD. She also facilitated support groups and provided specialized services for victims of domestic violence, HIV positive individuals, as well youth/teen issues. Aisha is certified in Mindfulness, Trauma Informed Care, Behavioral Management, Restorative Justice/ Healing Circles, Conflict Resolution, Mediation, and Confidentiality & Security. Aisha is also a Certified Life Coach, and Relationship Workshop facilitator. Aisha has a part-time Life Coaching practice in which she integrates the educational concepts of stress reduction, mindfulness, introspection, empowerment, self love and acceptance and spirituality to create a holistic healing journey for clients. Aisha is also a part of several organizations that advocates for prisoner rights/reentry, social & food justice, as well as advocating for an end to oppression & racism. In her spare time, Aisha enjoys her family, photography, nature, martial arts classes, Islamic studies, volunteering/charity work, as well as working on her book and spoken word projects.