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I Committed Zina with a Non-Muslim Man

11 October, 2021
Q Assalamu alaikum; I have a question regarding intimate relationships (Zina’a - adultery). I was married only once and divorced my husband (Khula’a) one year ago.

I have never once had any inappropriate relationships prior to marriage (or after) until two weeks ago. I have always stayed true to Allah (SWT), however, I’m worried that my actions with this person, who is a non-Muslim, will lead to my punishment in the Hereafter.

Unlike my previous husband, this man is honestly such a gentleman. I think this is why it all happened. This man is caring, genuine, honest, and has all the good aspects to look for in a relation. Together, we researched the consequences of what would happen if a Muslim woman engaged in this kind of relationship with a non-Muslim man prior to marriage.

I have committed Zina’a (adultery) and I am so afraid I will be condemned by Allah to hellfire. I have read it is not uncommon for humans to make mistakes and Allah (SWT) understands and forgives those who repent. I know what I did was wrong, but can you kindly speak to whether Allah (SWT) will hear my repentance, forgive my major sin, and not punish me in the Hereafter?

I am aware that only Allah (SWT) is the judge of this, but any information would be helpful. I understand repentance is being remorseful and abstaining from making the same mistake twice, but I find myself still wanting to engage in those acts with him because he is a real genuine individual. This is a basic human need, right? I’m finding it so difficult to find a good man to marry again.

In our culture, it is difficult for a widow to get remarried. I cannot endure the thought of remaining single for the rest of my life. I was never the type of person who thought engaging in intimate relations prior to marriage was okay. But I did…and, to be honest, I am conflicted because I really like this man. I just don’t know what to do. Please advise.


Salam Aleikom,

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• What to do after you committed zina

• The importance of protecting yourself by getting married to a Muslim man

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About Hannah Morris
Hannah Morris is a mum of 4 and she currently works as Counsellor and Instructor of BSc. Psychology at the Islamic Online University (IOU). She obtained her MA degree in Psychology and has over 10 years of experience working in health and social care settings in the UK, USA, and Ireland. Check out her personal Facebook page, ActiveMindCare, that promotes psychological well-being in the Ummah. (www.facebook.com/activemindcare)