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I Question My Faith Because of Muslims Around Me

25 March, 2023
Q I was born a Muslim. I had an unhappy childhood by religious parents who preached importance of reading namaz. I hated going to mosque. My parents always complain and are pessimistic about everything. Though being devout Muslims, my parents are rarely happy.

What's the purpose of this religion? To turn people into unhappy buffoons. The maulanas preach nonsense at the mosque. They say Prophet Muhammad was tying stone on stomach and starving. In Prophet Muhammad lifetime, he fought over 1000 battles and kept 20 percent of the loot. Why not preach about that instead of emphasizing the suffering? Why is this religion so negative? Why don't the maulanas spread more uplifting messages?

Namaz shouldn't be forced on children. My parents made all our siblings hate one another by inciting competition and gossiping about each child to the other. Can the maulanas tell people to stop reading the news and stop harassing their kids on crime rates and misery in the world? My dad is wealthy, for years, he made my mum drive a junk car whilst he drives BMW. He gives her allowance and then makes her pay for home renovations. Surely my dad is going to hell.

When our siblings are succeeding in life, he tries to knock them down. Why are Muslim men so miserable? Why must fathers have dirty hearts full of jealousy. Please don't me to make dua for him. I'm now an atheist and won't have second thoughts.

Answer

People have free will. We make choices about the values we follow, about the way we treat others, and about whether we follow the teachings of Islam or not.

And if someone chooses to disregard Allah’s command, religion is not to blame.

Islam is a beautiful religion, full of messages about love, mercy, kindness, and support for one another.

There should be a balance between instilling hope and fear in our approach.

Your disappointment may be related to your parents’ rare happiness. How to deal with that?

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About Aisha Mohammad
Aisha has a PhD in psychology, an MS in public health and a PsyD. Aisha worked as a Counselor/Psychologist for 12 years at Geneva B. Scruggs Community Health Care Center in New York. She has worked with clients with mental health issues such as anxiety, depression, panic disorder, trauma, and OCD. She also facilitated support groups and provided specialized services for victims of domestic violence, HIV positive individuals, as well youth/teen issues. Aisha is certified in Mindfulness, Trauma Informed Care, Behavioral Management, Restorative Justice/ Healing Circles, Conflict Resolution, Mediation, and Confidentiality & Security. Aisha is also a Certified Life Coach, and Relationship Workshop facilitator. Aisha has a part-time Life Coaching practice in which she integrates the educational concepts of stress reduction, mindfulness, introspection, empowerment, self love and acceptance and spirituality to create a holistic healing journey for clients. Aisha is also a part of several organizations that advocates for prisoner rights/reentry, social & food justice, as well as advocating for an end to oppression & racism. In her spare time, Aisha enjoys her family, photography, nature, martial arts classes, Islamic studies, volunteering/charity work, as well as working on her book and spoken word projects.