As-Salamu ‘Alaikum dear sister,
It is not surprising that you wish to seek divorce at this point. It must be very difficult for you to live in this type of situation, besides that it makes your life feel very miserable.
Before you seek a divorce, I would first recommend trying to resolve your differences by talking. Perhaps he doesn’t realise how rude he is to you and won’t if you don’t tell him and talk about it. You most probably loved him very much at some point and things were good between you, so the first step is to try saving the marriage. After all, marriage is a big protection for us from bigger sins and completes half our deen.
If this fails, the next step is to go and speak to your local imam and talk with him about the situation. It might be that he will first recommend counselling for the two of you. Maybe he can sit with you to discuss the differences and see if there is a way to resolve them. If you can, then alhamdulillah. If you cannot and the imam does not believe either that you would be able to resolve your differences, then he can still guide you on the next step towards seeking a divorce.
The method for seeking divorce varies depending on the country you are in and the type of marriage you have. This is something the imam can directly advise you on.
In the mean time, take care of yourself; keep busy with positive things and don’t lose hope in Allah’s (swt) mercy. In sha’ Allah, whatever the outcome, you will be happy and content with Allah’s (swt) will.
May Allah (swt) make it easy and smooth for you, sister.
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