They said I have to study at a local university and I said fine. There are a lot of universities around me locally.
I told my parents I would like to go to the university which is 1 hour away by train but they refused and they are making me go to a university which is 20 minutes away but I don't like it.
I don’t know what to do. My parents left their country so that I could get a good education but now I feel like they are really jeopardizing it.
In this counseling answer:
•Do try and see things from their perspective.
•You can, however, have a respectful chat with them about where you want to study and why.
•Use this gratitude to fuel motivation to perform well and get good grades even if it is not where you want to be.
•It may be that opportunities arise for you in this local university that never would have come your way.
It is always difficult for children when they want something but their parents disagree and want something else for them.
On the other hand, you want your voice heard, but on the other, you must respect their choices.
Firstly, do try and see things from their perspective. They moved countries and are likely paying the fees for your education so have done a lot for you in that respect. It is, therefore, quite difficult to justify challenging what they want you to do.
You can, however, have a respectful chat with them about where you want to study and why.
If you don’t discuss this with them then they will never be able to see it from your perspective and support anything other than what they want for you.
Additionally, keeping in line with considering their perspective, think about reasons why they may prefer you to study closer to home, even if the university is not as good.
First of all, it’s difficult for parents to let go of their children as they grow older and become more independent.
Understand their concern
Encouraging you to study closer to home will enable them to feel Korea like you are still close to them and not traveling far for study each day.
Furthermore, understand their concern that things are less safe in today’s climate.
As a young Muslim woman, they will probably be feeling very concerned for your safety fearing for you traveling far each day.
If you remain close they will feel more secure of your wellbeing.
Perhaps you will be able to convince them to allow you to study in your university of preference, but if not, focus on being grateful for even having the opportunity to go to university and having your parents support.
Use this gratitude to fuel motivation to perform well and get good grades even if it is not where you want to be.
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It may be that opportunities arise for you in this local university that never would have come your way should you have gone to the university you wanted to.
Allah will open opportunities in places you would never have imagined.
May Allah grant you success in your university career and bring happiness and contentment between you and your parents
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