05 March, 2022
Q
I have the guilt for not sharing my feelings. Due to this, I'm stressed. What should I do?
Growing up in a chaotic household with verbal and emotional abusive exchanges between my parents since I was 6, I have been extremely stressed. They were separated when I was 12 on my mom's denial over her nafkah with a mantra of 'no money or no stream of income despite his stable job.
My father left us, leaving us to survive on our own without caring about how we live. Now in my late 30s, I recently discovered that he has been hoarding assets without mentioning them to us. I feel betrayed and denied for having to believe that 'we are poor', we have 'no money and 'no income'. I feel numb because it is hard to digest the horrible memories. How should I handle such situations? I find it stressful every time my father is around.
Growing up in a chaotic household with verbal and emotional abusive exchanges between my parents since I was 6, I have been extremely stressed. They were separated when I was 12 on my mom's denial over her nafkah with a mantra of 'no money or no stream of income despite his stable job.
My father left us, leaving us to survive on our own without caring about how we live. Now in my late 30s, I recently discovered that he has been hoarding assets without mentioning them to us. I feel betrayed and denied for having to believe that 'we are poor', we have 'no money and 'no income'. I feel numb because it is hard to digest the horrible memories. How should I handle such situations? I find it stressful every time my father is around.
Answer
In this counseling answer you will hear:
Seek face-to-face counseling.
If your parents want you to disobey Allah, then no, you cannot be obedient to Allah.
Stay close to Allah.
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