Sexual desires


Assalamu Aleikum! I am a 21 year old african muslim man from sweden born and raised. Alhamdulilah i have started university 1 week ago and will remain there for the next 3 years .I have trouble with desires. Allhamdulilah i have never commited zina but i keep thinking about all the time. I have some friends that are also muslim and they do zina and always try to encourage do so as well. When i get thoughts of fornication i try to nip it in the bud because if i want my future spouse to be pure i have to remain pure myself. But it’s hard for me. I gave struggled for a long time .I hope you have sincere advice you can give me.


Wa alaykum as-salam wa-rahmatullah wa-barakatuh,

In the Name of Allah, the All-Merciful, the Mercy-Giving,

Peace and blessings be upon His noble Prophet Muhammad.

Dear brother, may Allah protect you and help you to remain steadfast in your religion.

You are in a critical situation, indeed. But a Muslim has always to keep his religion first in all the decisions he makes. As a young unmarried man you will be suffering serious temptations. The ideal solution is to get married, if you can afford it.

If you cannot, then my advice to you is first to find better friends than those who urge you to commit those heinous abomination.

Allah says in the Quran what means, “And you shall not ever approach illicit sexual intercourse. Indeed, it is [utter] lewdness and a most evil way.” (Quran 17:32)

Also try to attend at the nearest mosque of Islamic center, where you can find support and guidance. Duly observe daily prayers and keep the Quran in your company to recite it whenever and wherever you are free.

Allah says in the Quran what means, “Recite all that has been revealed to you of the Book [of Allah]. Moreover, [duly] establish the Prayer. Indeed, the Prayer guards [one] against immorality and evil.” (Quran 45:29)

Try to keep yourself always busy with useful activities, because leisure time is the trap of Satan. Pray sincerely to Allah to protect and guard you against disobedience, evil, and lewdness.

If you still suffer and really fear of committing fornication, then you have to go back to your country and be sure that Allah will compensate you because you want to protect your faith and religiosity.

Allah says what means, “And whoever fears Allah, He shall make for him a way out [of every difficulty]. Moreover, He shall provide for him from where he has never conceived.” (Quran 65:2-3)

The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said, “You will never give up something for the sake of Allah except that He shall replace it for you with something better.” (Ahmad)

Almighty Allah knows best.

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