Q:

Dear scholar

Selam alejkum

My question is about shaving a beard to appear my husband more attractive in my eyes. I do not deny any ijmah or Hadith said about topic. Basically my question is…can my husband shave his beard to make me happier and more attractive to me. My husband do not want leave Sunnah which is almost a fard about beard…but if is not sin to make me happier..can he do it. Please answer me simply yes or no…. because I am stubborn woman. May Allah reward you for effort.

A:

Wa alaykum as-salam wa-rahmatullah wa-barakatuh,

In the Name of Allah, the All-Merciful, the Mercy-Giving,

Peace and blessings be upon His noble Prophet Muhammad.

In a clear and explicit injunction, the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) ordered, “Let the beard grow out.” (Al-Bukhari and Muslim)

The majority of scholars thus uphold the prohibition of shaving one’s beard. This is further bolstered by other prophetic narrations where this injunction is meant to distinguish a Muslim from non-Muslims.

If this is so, a Muslim has always to be mindful of the Quranic principle that “it is not ever [befitting] for a believing man or a believing woman, when Allah and His Messenger have decreed a matter, to have for themselves a [contrary] choice in their affairs. For whoever disobeys Allah and His Messenger has truly strayed into clear misguidance.” (Quran 33:36)

Therefore, sister, instead of asking your husband to disobey the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him), you should help and encourage him to further abide the Sunnah. Of course, it is your right to ask him to make you happy, but it is not your right to ask him to disobey the Messenger of Allah. A Muslim has to feel contented and pleased with all Islamic teachings and injunctions.

Almighty Allah knows best.