Assalamu alaikum wa rahmatulahi wa barakatuh sister,

 

To get specific advice directly from the Qur’an and Sunnah that can be explained in the light of a strong knowledge of Islam I would suggest you seek scholarly advice on the matter to get some strong and sound advice on the matter.

 

From a more general perspective however, abuse of any kind is not permitted Islamically.

 

We are taught to be kind and merciful to all. It does matter whether a person is older or younger than us, close relative or stranger, we are taught to treat everyone with respect. There is no room for abuse, be it physical or psychological in Islam. There is no excuse for it, nor is there anywhere in any authentic Islamic text that suggests it is ok in any form.

 

Just because someone is older and more knowledgeable than their younger counterparts, it does not give them any right to be abusive.

 

Without any specific details, only general advice can be given here. If the abused person is in any danger then they should seek shelter elsewhere to escape the abuse. They should not in any way feel that they are to blame. Even if they have done something wrong, this does not mean that the abuser should relative back with physical abuse.

 

Sometimes, it is the case that the abuser is experiencing outside issues that have nothing to do with the one that they are abusing. The reason that they abuse the person is because they are a close family member and therefore love them unconditionally. Therefore the abuser has someone who they can take their frustrations out on, in the knowledge that they are less likely to turn their back on them than if they should abuse someone who they are not close to. Unfortunately, the abused then has to carry the Wright of whatever the abuser is going through both physically and emotionally. Whilst this can help us to understand why close family members do abuse their family, it does not make it ok.

 

If it is possible to encourage the abuser to get some counseling and support to overcome their anger and frustration then this is a positive step forward, otherwise, the abused is advised to seek refuge somewhere safe where they can be free from the abuse. This will also give the abuser the space to reflect on their actions and find alternative and more healthy ways to manage their anger and physically abuse ways.

 

May Allah make things easier for those being abused and may He guide those who abuse others.