Wa alaikum salaam wa rahmatulahi wa barakatuh sister,

 

Allah has given you the ability to have children, but He has also given both you and your husband genetic profiles that mean any children you bare have a chance of being born with a chromosomal abnormality. There are many different types of chromosomal abnormalities and any number of us can be carrying the gene that can result in the same, be it unknown or not. Having a child with some type of chromosomal abnormality comes with any number of challenges and many will say that all they wish for in a child is for them to be healthy.

 

However, this is often said forgetting that firstly, even having a child is a blest begin with regardless of whether they possess a disability or not as there are also many who pray to even have a child and suffer the emotional consequences of being unable to bare one ever in their life. Furthermore, in the event of a seeming adversity like having a disabled child, it is easy to forget the added blessings that come with the tests that one is faced in raising a child with disabilities.

 

As with any test, it is important to remember that Allah will not burden you with more than you can bare. He knows that you are strong enough to bare the pains and challenges that come with the test of raising a disabled child. Few sisters are blessed with such strength and patience. The test makes things difficult in this life, but the rewards in the Hereafter will be far greater. After all, look at the types of tests the greatest people before us faced.

 

Only Allah knows whether He will bless you with another child who has the same chromosomal abnormality so this matter is in His hands.  Of course, noone prays to go through such adversities so it’s  ok to pray for a healthy child, but also don’t his in t faith and trust that Allah will bless you with whatever is good for you.

 

You can seek scholarly advice on the best duas to say at this point, and also make sure to take care of yourself too; both physically and psychologically. I’ll health in either of these areas can add to the potential to develop other difficulties in a developing baby too.

 

Stay close to Allah and engage in worship regularly will help to relax you psychologically and place your body in a good physical state for pregnancy as well as being content with whatever Allah blesses you with. It is only natural that you will be feeling such anxieties at present since the last pregnancy concluded with the death of your child due to this abnormality,  bit it is important for you to try any keep yourself relaxed by focusing on the positives in that experience as well as your spiritual commitment in order to be in the most conducive mental state to carry your pregnancy to the end, in sha Allah.

 

May Allah reward your struggles and make this pregnancy easy for you. May He grant you a pious child who will be the coolness of your eyes in this life and the next.